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July 25, 2025

Episode 23:Embodying Your Feminine Energy

Hello beautiful souls, and welcome to another heartfelt episode of the Spiritual Gangster Podcast I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today — we’re diving into a sacred and transformative topic that I believe so many of us are being called back to: Embodying Your Feminine Energy.

Whether you’ve been feeling disconnected, exhausted, overly in your “doing” energy, or simply curious about how to deepen your relationship with your feminine essence — this episode is for you.

So before we begin, I invite you to take a moment to arrive.

If you’re not driving or multitasking, gently place a hand over your heart… and take a deep breath in through your nose… and sigh it out through your mouth.

Let yourself land here. You’re safe. You’re welcome. You’re loved.

 

What Is Feminine Energy, Really?

Let’s start with something important — feminine energy is not about being a woman. It’s not about pink and perfume. It’s not even about softness in the way society often portrays it.

Feminine energy is life force. It’s intuitive. Fluid. Expressive. Receptive. Magnetic.

It’s the energy of the moon, the ocean, the womb, the creative spark that births both ideas and human life.

We all carry both feminine and masculine energies within us. The masculine is structured, linear, goal-oriented — and we need that. It gets things done. But too often, especially in our Western society, the masculine has been over-prioritized. We’ve been taught to value output over rest, logic over feeling, doing over being.

And many of us — especially women and feminine-identifying folks — have become disconnected from the deep, rich power of our feminine energy. Not because we’re weak, but because we’ve been surviving. Pushing. Performing. Overgiving. Holding everything together.

So this episode is a coming home. A sacred invitation to soften, reconnect, and embody your feminine energy in a way that’s authentic and healing.

Let me take you back for a moment. There was a time in my life when I was constantly in hustle mode. Burning out from overwork, struggling with anxiety, feeling numb and disconnected, losing pleasure in everyday life.

And even though I was checking all the boxes — the success, the to-do lists, the control — inside, I felt dry. I was craving softness, intimacy, connection, creativity… but I didn’t know how to access it.

The turning point came when I realized: I wasn’t broken.

I was simply disconnected from my feminine. She was still there — waiting, whispering, inviting me back. And when I said yes to her… everything began to change.

Embodying feminine energy isn’t just about knowing what it is — it’s about living it.

It’s not a checklist. It’s a devotion.

It’s how you breathe, how you speak to yourself, how you hold your own emotions with tenderness.

It’s allowing yourself to cry when you need to — or rest without guilt.

It’s reclaiming pleasure.

It’s trusting your intuition even when it doesn’t make sense.

It’s making beauty a priority — not for performance, but for nourishment.

To embody your feminine is to be in relationship with yourself — your body, your heart, your desires.

 

 Practices for Awakening the Feminine

Let’s talk about practical, grounded ways to begin embodying your feminine energy. These are things you can start integrating into your life today — not for performance, but for connection.

✨ 1. Movement Without Structure

Dance. Stretch. Sway. Move your hips in slow circles. Let your body lead, not your mind. This is not about fitness — this is about feeling.

✨ 2. Ritual and Sensuality

Light a candle while you make tea. Wear silk or soft cotton just because it feels good on your skin. Make your meals beautiful. The feminine is activated through the senses — smell, touch, taste, sound, and sight.

✨ 3. Receiving as a Practice

Ask for help. Let yourself be supported. Say “thank you” when you receive a compliment instead of deflecting. Receiving is a feminine superpower.

✨ 4. Emotional Fluidity

Let yourself cry. Laugh. Feel rage. Moan. Yawn. Sigh. Your emotions are sacred and intelligent — they are part of your feminine language.

✨ 5. Creative Expression

Journal. Sing. Paint. Decorate. Write poetry. Don’t worry if it’s good. Let it be real. The feminine births, and your creativity is divine.

✨ 6. Inner Listening

Meditate not to clear the mind, but to drop in. Ask your womb, your heart, your body — what do you need? What do you desire? What do you know?

 

Healing the Wounded Feminine

Many of us carry wounds around our feminine essence. Maybe you were told you were “too sensitive,” “too much,” “too emotional.” Maybe you learned to equate your worth with productivity or people-pleasing.

Embodying your feminine means healing these wounds gently.

It means:

Saying no even when it disappoints someone

Reclaiming rest as your birthright

Honoring your boundaries as sacred

Believing your softness is not a liability — it’s a form of leadership

You do not have to harden to be strong.

You do not have to dim to be loved.

Reflection and Journaling Prompts

If you’re someone who loves journaling, here are a few prompts to explore after this episode:

1. What parts of my feminine energy feel alive and safe right now?

2. Where do I feel disconnected from my body, my intuition, or my emotions?

3. What would it look like to receive more?

4. What stories or patterns am I ready to release around being “too much” or “not enough”?

5. How does my body want to move today?

 

Affirmations for Feminine Embodiment

Let’s speak life into your body. Take a breath with me… and repeat:

I am safe to soften.

My body is wise.

I receive with grace and gratitude.

I honor the rhythm of my soul.

I am magnetic in my authenticity.

I trust the divine timing of my life.

I am the embodiment of beauty, love, and power.

 

A Love Note to Your Feminine Self

To the part of you that is aching to be seen…

To the softness you’ve hidden for too long…

To the fire you thought you had to dim to be accepted…

To the wild, creative, emotional, beautiful feminine energy that lives within you…

I see you. I honor you. And I invite you to return home to her.

Not because you need to be more of anything… but because you already are everything.

 

Thank you so much for being here, for listening with your heart, and for taking this journey into feminine embodiment with me. If this episode moved you, please share it with someone who’s on their own journey of self-discovery and softness.

Until next time — stay tender, stay true, and remember… the feminine in you is not a weakness — she is your birthright.

 

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July 18, 2025

Episode 22: When you are in the void of who you are becoming

Hello, spiritual gangsters! Welcome back to another episode of the Spiritual Gangster Podcast. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi — soulful, strong, and just like you, walking this messy, magical path called life.

Today’s episode is one of those deep ones — the kind that hits you right in the gut... and maybe the heart, too.

We’re talking about *the void*.

That strange, foggy, in-between space where you are no longer who you used to be… but you’re not quite sure who you’re becoming either.

Sound familiar?

Yeah. Me too.

Let’s get into it.

What *is* the void, really?

Let’s call it what it is — the void is uncomfortable as hell. It’s that weird space where your old habits, identities, and versions of yourself are falling away…

But the new ones? Haven’t quite landed yet.

It’s like you cleaned out your closet, donated everything that didn’t fit anymore, and now you’re standing there naked, wondering what the hell you're supposed to wear.

You don’t recognize yourself anymore — and it’s not because you’ve lost yourself. It’s because you’re in the sacred middle.

The pause. The hallway between who you were and who you’re becoming.

And let’s be honest — the hallway is echoey, lonely, and sometimes full of self-doubt.

But here’s the thing:

**The void isn’t a punishment. It’s a passage.**

It’s your soul taking inventory. It’s the sacred becoming.

The grief of letting go

No one talks enough about the grief that comes with growth.

Yeah, personal development sounds cute on Instagram — but in real life?

It can feel like your identity is falling apart.

Old friendships fade. The job that once made you feel alive now drains you. The hobbies, the dreams, the goals — they don’t hit the same.

You’re standing there holding the pieces of your “used to be” self, wondering if any of it still belongs to the future you’re creating.

And here’s where it gets raw: Sometimes you mourn things that weren’t even good for you. Why? Because they were familiar.

And our nervous system *loves* familiar — even when it’s not aligned.

So if you're in this space right now, grieving a version of yourself you’ve outgrown — I see you. I honour you. And I want to remind you:

**You’re allowed to miss the comfort of what you left, even while knowing it wasn’t meant for where you’re going.**

Navigating the “no longer, not yet”

Now let’s talk about that weird energetic tension in the void.

You’re not who you used to be. But you’re also not fully living in the new version of you yet. You might feel like you’re floating. Drifting. Questioning everything.

You start asking:

Who even *am* I?

What do I want now?

Why does everything feel… off?

That’s the void speaking. And instead of rushing to fill it — what if you just *listened*?

Because the void isn’t empty. It’s sacred.

It’s the womb of your next becoming. It’s where clarity is born, but only when you stop trying to escape it.

You don’t need to *do* more right now.

You need to *be* with yourself. To soften. To rest. To remember who you are when no one’s watching.

What to do when you don’t know what to do

Okay, practical moment.

Let’s talk about what to *actually* do when you’re in the void.

Because trust me, I get it — sitting in stillness can feel like a damn identity crisis.

Here are a few soulful survival tips:

1. **Stop rushing clarity.**

   Clarity isn’t Amazon Prime. It doesn’t show up in two days. It’s more like slow-cooked stew — it needs time to simmer.

2. **Keep your rituals.**

   Even when you don’t feel like it. Morning coffee. Journaling. Walks. Baths. Whatever grounds you — *do it*.

3. **Talk to your future self.**

   Sit quietly and ask her what she wants.

Not what your past self would do. Not what your ego wants. What *she* — the becoming version of you — is calling in.

4. **Let go gracefully.**

   Not everything you lose is a loss.

Some things are being peeled away so you can finally breathe.

5. **Repeat after me: “This is temporary.”**

   You will not be in the void forever. You’re in transit. Transformation is messy — but it’s leading somewhere beautiful.

A sacred reminder

I want you to know that if you’re in the void right now, it doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It doesn’t mean you’re behind. It doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

It means you’re *becoming*. It means your soul is renovating. And renovations always look like chaos before they look like clarity.

You’re not lost. You’re shedding. And your light? It’s not gone. It’s just cocooned.

So trust the darkness. Trust the space. Trust the unbecoming — because it’s the doorway to your expansion.

Closing

Alright, spiritual gangsters. I hope this episode held space for your soul today.

If you’re in the void — know that I’m right here with you.

Sipping coffee. Journaling. Growing. Becoming.

You’re not alone. You’re not broken. You’re just becoming too big for your old shell.

And that? That’s a beautiful thing.

Until next time,

Stay soulful,

Stay strong,

And remember —

You can do hard things.

 

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July 11, 2025

Episode 21: Breaking Generational Patterns with Grace

Hello, spiritual gangsters — welcome back to another episode of the Spiritual Gangster Podcast. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today we’re going there. Yep, we’re stepping into some big, bold, beautiful truth — and it might get a little uncomfortable, but that’s where the healing lives

Today’s episode is called Breaking Generational Patterns with Grace, and oooh chile, this one’s personal. Because let’s be real — we’ve all inherited stuff that didn’t start with us. Beliefs. Behaviors. Trauma. Silence. The “we don’t talk about that” family motto. The “just suck it up” survival tactic. The “this is just how it’s always been” narrative that gets passed down like Grandma’s recipe — except way less nourishing.

But here’s the thing — just because it didn’t start with you, doesn’t mean it has to continue with you.

You are allowed to look at the patterns in your lineage — not with blame, but with boldness. Not with bitterness, but with compassion. Not to shame anyone… but to choose differently.

That’s what we’re diving into today: how to see the cycles for what they are, how to disrupt them with grace, and how to honor your story without being trapped in it.

Because healing isn’t about pretending your family was perfect. It’s about being honest enough to say, “This ends with me.”

Let’s start here: generational patterns aren’t always obvious.  

They can be loud, sure — like addiction, abandonment, or abuse. But more often? They’re subtle.  

It’s the fear of speaking up.  

The guilt for resting.  

The shame around asking for help.  

The way your mom never said “I’m proud of you,” even though you know she loved you.  

The way your dad avoided emotions like they were the plague.

And those things don’t just float away with time — they embed themselves in our nervous systems, our relationships, our parenting, our self-worth.  

Unspoken trauma becomes internalized rules.  

Unconscious beliefs become generational blueprints.

But here’s the beautiful, badass truth: You can rewrite them.

You don’t have to raise your kids in the same emotional environment you were raised in.  

You don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode because that’s what your family normalized.  

You don’t have to carry what was never meant to be yours.

And let me be crystal clear: doing this work isn’t easy.  

It takes courage to confront the unspoken.  

It takes strength to say, “No more.”  

But it also takes tenderness — grace — to recognize that our parents, and their parents, were doing the best they could with what they had.

Sometimes what they had was pain.  

Sometimes what they had was silence.  

And now? You have awareness. You have choice.  

That is your power.

Let’s pause here and breathe that in — you have choice.  

And with choice comes responsibility — not to carry the weight of everyone’s wounds, but to consciously shift your response to them.

You don’t have to repeat what hurt you.  

You can feel the fear and still choose softness.  

You can be the one who says, “I love you” out loud.  

The one who apologizes.  

The one who listens to your kids without shutting them down.  

The one who validates feelings instead of brushing them under the rug.

Breaking cycles isn’t just about big actions — it’s in the tiny, radical moments of presence.  

It’s when you don’t yell, even though you were yelled at.  

It’s when you take a deep breath instead of slamming a door.  

It’s when you cry in front of your kids, and then show them how to move through it.

And let’s not sugarcoat it — some days, it’s going to feel heavy.  

You’re going to doubt yourself.  

You’re going to wonder if you’re doing it “right.”  

You might even feel lonely — like you’re the only one in your family who sees the dysfunction, the silence, the pain.

But guess what? You’re not alone.  

There’s a whole generation of us who are waking up and saying: It stops here. The buck stops with me. And I will do it differently — with love, with grace, and with fire in my soul.

And can we talk about grace for a minute? Because this isn’t about being perfect.

Breaking patterns doesn’t mean you’ll never snap, never slip into old ways, never hear your mother’s voice come flying out of your own mouth. (Been there, freaked out about it, had to do some deep breathing afterward.)

Grace means you catch yourself with compassion.  

Grace means you choose curiosity over shame.  

Grace means you say, “That’s not who I want to be,” and then choose again.

This healing work is messy. It’s layered. It’s not a Pinterest board of affirmations and sage sticks. It’s you — tired and triggered — choosing to respond instead of react. It’s you — breaking down in the car — whispering, “I’m not doing this like they did. I’m doing this my way.”

That’s grace.  

That’s growth.  

That’s gangster energy.

And listen, not everyone’s going to understand your shift. Some people might call you dramatic.  

Too sensitive. Too rebellious. Too different.  

But you know what? You are different — and thank God for that.  

Because different is how we heal.  

Different is how we evolve.  

Different is how we build legacies that feel safe, open, and full of truth instead of secrets.

You’re not here to repeat the past — you’re here to rewrite the future.

Let’s talk about the ripple effect for a second — because every time you choose a new response, you’re not just healing yourself. You’re healing generations forward and generations back.

Let that land.

Every time you parent differently, speak more gently, set a boundary with love, or go to therapy instead of popping off — you’re shifting the entire energetic lineage of your family.  

You’re becoming the safe space your younger self needed.  

You’re becoming the example your kids will one day remember when they raise their own babies.

You might not get a parade for it.  

Your ancestors might not have had the words to thank you.  

But energetically? You’re breaking chains they couldn’t.  

You’re doing work they prayed for.  

You are the answered prayer.

And listen — even if you don’t have kids, this still applies. Because everyone has a lineage. And every time you choose softness over hardness, truth over silence, presence over performance — you shift the vibration of your entire bloodline.

You’re creating emotional wealth.  

You’re building a new legacy — not one built on survival, but on love.  

Not one built on shame, but on freedom.

And you’re doing it one choice at a time. Not perfectly. But powerfully.

So let’s talk about what this can look like in real life — because it’s not always this big dramatic thing. Sometimes it’s subtle. Quiet. Intentional.

It’s saying “I love you” first — even if you didn’t grow up hearing it.  

It’s apologizing to your child — not because you’re weak, but because you’re wise.  

It’s going to therapy, journaling, meditating, or simply choosing not to pass your pain down.  

It’s asking hard questions.  

It’s choosing presence over distraction.  

It’s choosing softness when your body wants to armor up.

And honestly? Sometimes it’s choosing distance.  

Sometimes breaking patterns means stepping away from toxic dynamics.  

It means saying “no” to what drains you — even if it shares your last name.  

It means letting go of the guilt that was never yours to hold.

You can love your family and still choose to do things differently.  

You can honor where you came from and still choose a new direction.  

You can set boundaries and still be kind.  

Breaking cycles doesn’t make you a villain — it makes you a healer.

And healing isn’t loud.  

It’s not flashy.  

Most of the time, it’s behind closed doors — in your kitchen, your car, your journal.  

It’s quiet, but it’s radical.  

It’s slow, but it’s real.  

And one day, someone will thank you for doing this work.  

Even if that someone is you.

So if you’ve been wondering whether it’s worth it — whether it’s working — let me remind you of this:

Every conscious choice you make to heal…  

Every cycle you choose not to repeat…  

Every time you sit with a feeling instead of stuffing it down…  

Every time you show up softer, stronger, more present —  

You are shifting timelines.  

You are healing lineages.  

You are doing the damn thing.

And no, it’s not easy.  

It might be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do.  

But it’s also one of the most important.

You don’t have to carry it all alone.  

You don’t have to fix everything overnight.  

You just have to keep choosing the next aligned step — with intention and with grace.

Because grace isn’t about letting people off the hook.  

Grace is about setting yourself free.  

Free to grow.  

Free to lead.  

Free to live a life that’s authentically yours.

Alright, beautiful soul — that’s it for today’s episode. If this message landed in your heart, share it with someone you love. Leave a review. DM me and let me know what cycle you’re breaking.

And most importantly… take a moment today to honor how far you’ve come.  

You’re not just breaking chains — you’re building bridges.  

You’re not just healing — you’re leading.

I’m Amanda Pieraldi, and this has been another episode of the Spiritual Gangster Podcast.  

Until next time…

Keep showing up with soul. 

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July 4, 2025

Episode 20: The Power of Stillness in a Loud World

Hello, spiritual gangsters — welcome back to another episode of the Spiritual Gangster Podcast. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and as always, I’m bringing the real, the raw, and the vibe-driven truth for your soul and spirit.

Today, we’re getting into something that might seem simple, but trust me, it’s one of the most powerful tools in your spiritual arsenal: stillness. Yeah, I know. In a world that screams “Do more! Be more! Hustle harder!” — stillness feels like rebellion. But that’s the vibe we’re on today — soulful rebellion. Graceful defiance. Because in a world that never shuts up, choosing stillness is choosing yourself.

And no — I’m not talking about being lazy or checking out of life. I’m talking about being so deeply in tune with yourself that you can sit in silence and hear the messages your soul’s been trying to whisper through the noise. You just couldn’t hear them over your own mental playlist of to-dos, drama, and distractions.

So today we’re diving into why stillness is sacred, how to actually cultivate it without losing your mind (or feeling like you need to shave your head and move to the woods), and why it’s not just helpful — it’s freaking necessary.

Because let’s face it — we live in a world addicted to noise. Constant scrolling. Notifications. Group chats popping off at all hours. And if you’re a mom like me? Silence is either suspicious… or nonexistent. But here's the truth: the loudest part of life is often the most meaningless. And the most meaningful moments? They usually arrive in whispers.

Let’s talk about that noise for a sec. The noise isn’t just volume — it’s energy. It’s overstimulation. It’s the pressure to perform, to keep up, to stay “in the loop.” We think we’ll miss something important if we unplug. But what if the real thing we’re missing… is ourselves?

Let that land.

We’ve gotten so used to the chaos, so comfortable with the constant stimulation, that silence can actually feel awkward. Like, have you ever sat in your car without music on and immediately felt weird? Or tried to meditate and within 30 seconds your brain starts drafting grocery lists, replaying yesterday’s convo, and wondering if your dog is emotionally fulfilled? Yeah, same.

But that resistance to stillness is actually a sign that we need it more than ever.

Stillness isn’t about doing nothing — it’s about tuning into what actually matters. It’s about pausing long enough to listen to your breath, your body, your intuition. It’s the space where the real answers live — not the performative surface-level stuff, but the deep-down, “this is who I am” truth.

Stillness is where you meet your soul — undistracted and unfiltered.

And let’s be honest — if we don’t create that space intentionally, life will eventually force us to. Burnout. Breakdown. Illness. Anxiety. Your body and spirit will scream for quiet if you don’t give it willingly.

So instead of waiting for that crash… what if we started making stillness part of the daily rhythm — not a reward, not a luxury, but a non-negotiable?

Now I get it — life is full. I’m a mom, I’ve got a million tabs open in my brain at all times, and some days I feel like I’m held together with caffeine, affirmations, and stubbornness. But here’s the deal — stillness doesn’t have to mean sitting cross-legged for an hour in total silence with your chakras perfectly aligned.

It can look like sipping your coffee before the kids wake up… without your phone.

It can be five minutes of deep breathing in your parked car before walking into work.

It can even be the sacred moment after you shut the shower water off and just stand there, eyes closed, letting the silence hug you.

Stillness doesn’t require perfection. It just requires intention.

And when you give yourself those moments — even tiny ones — something magical starts to happen. You get clearer. Calmer. More rooted. You stop reacting and start responding. You make choices from alignment, not anxiety.

The world might still be loud, but suddenly… it doesn’t control your inner volume.

And here’s the spiritual gangster truth bomb: stillness is a power move.

Because when you’re still, you’re unshakable. You’re not swayed by the chaos or consumed by other people’s drama. You stand in your center, grounded and glowing, while the world spins around you — and that, my friend, is magnetic.

People will start wondering what you’re doing differently.

You’ll be radiating peace in a world that runs on panic.

And that’s where your light becomes leadership.

Let’s bust a few myths while we’re here, shall we?

Myth #1: “Stillness is for people with no responsibilities.”

Reality check: some of the busiest, most high-impact humans on the planet swear by silence. CEOs schedule “white-space time.” Elite athletes visualize in quiet rooms. Moms like us hide in the pantry for thirty sacred seconds. (Don’t judge—I know you’ve done it.)

Myth #2: “If I sit still, I’ll fall behind.”

Truth bomb: when you’re perpetually doing, you’re often just spinning. Stillness gives you strategy. It’s the pause that lets you pivot instead of panic.

Myth #3: “Stillness is boring.”

Girl, boredom is underrated. Boredom breeds creativity. Some of my best ideas show up when I stare at a wall long enough for my brain to stop scrolling the mental feed.

So how do we weave this rebel-quiet into real life?

- Micro-Moments: Think 60-second breath checks at red lights. Instead of cursing traffic, inhale for four, hold for four, exhale for four. Boom—instant nervous-system reset.

- Midday Mute: Put your phone on Do Not Disturb for the first ten minutes of lunch. Taste the food. Feel your fork. Radical, I know.

- Evening Exhale: Shut down screens 30 minutes before bed. Let silence be your lullaby instead of TikTok. (Your melatonin will throw you a party.)

Tiny pauses create colossal peace. And the more you practice, the easier it gets—like building a stillness muscle. At first it trembles; then it lifts the weight of the world like it’s nothing.

Now let’s talk about the emotional resistance to stillness — because trust me, it’s real.

When we finally sit down in the quiet, guess what tends to show up first? The stuff we’ve been avoiding. The grief we pushed aside. The anger we numbed. The questions we didn’t want to ask ourselves. Stillness can feel uncomfortable because it exposes what the noise was covering up.

But here’s the kicker — that’s not a bad thing. That’s the medicine. That’s the magic. Stillness doesn’t create discomfort, it reveals it — and then gives us the space to heal it.

When we stop running from our emotions and start meeting them in stillness, we reclaim our power. We become less afraid of what’s inside us. And that’s where transformation happens — not through more noise or more distraction, but through radical, soul-level self-connection.

You’ve probably heard the phrase “the answers are within you.” And you might’ve rolled your eyes at it once or twice. But here’s what I’ve learned — it’s not cheesy, it’s true. The problem is, most of us are too overstimulated to hear those answers. Your soul isn’t trying to shout. It speaks in nudges, gut feelings, subtle shifts.

So if you’ve been praying for a sign, asking the Universe for clarity — maybe this is your reminder to turn down the external volume and tune in to the inner wisdom. You’re not waiting on answers. The answers are waiting on you… to get quiet enough to receive them.

Stillness is the bridge between confusion and clarity. And baby, I want you clear. Clear and aligned and unapologetically YOU.

So now that we’ve unpacked the why, let’s bring it home with the how — how do we actually build a stillness practice in the middle of this chaotic, overstimulated, responsibility-filled life?

It starts with commitment, not convenience. Stillness won’t always feel easy. It won’t always feel “productive.” But it will change you. And all it takes is a few non-negotiables to get the momentum rolling.

Here’s what I suggest:

1. Anchor it to something you already do.

Waiting for your coffee to brew? Sit. Breathe. Stare out the window. No scrolling. No multitasking. Just be.

2. Create a daily ‘quiet container.’

I don’t care if it’s 3 minutes or 30 — pick a time, name it, protect it. It can be your Sacred Silence Session, your Soul Pause, or my personal fave: “Don’t Talk To Me, I’m Meditating, Breathing, or Mentally Checking Out” time.

3. Let go of needing it to be perfect.

You don’t need a Zen room or fancy incense. You just need presence. Stillness doesn’t judge you — so don’t judge it. If your mind wanders, bring it back. If your toddler bursts in mid-breath, laugh, restart, repeat tomorrow.

And maybe most importantly? Celebrate the stillness. Notice how different you feel afterward — calmer, clearer, more grounded. Acknowledge that shift. That’s your inner landscape changing. That’s you remembering who the hell you are beneath all the noise.

You are not here to hustle yourself into the ground.

You are not here to chase validation in a world that can’t even sit still for five seconds.

You are here to be — deeply, richly, unapologetically.

So, spiritual gangster — if no one has told you lately, let me be the one to say it:

You are allowed to rest.

You are allowed to unplug.

You are allowed to step back so you can rise up.

Stillness isn’t weakness.

It’s not laziness.

It’s not selfish.

It’s sacred.

Stillness is where you reconnect to your intuition, where your nervous system exhales, and where your next empowered move is born. In a world that glorifies noise and burnout, your stillness becomes a form of spiritual rebellion.

So here’s your challenge:

This week, choose stillness.

Schedule it. Honor it. Don’t apologize for it.

And if anyone gives you side-eye for being “too quiet” or “not always available”?

Smile. Breathe. And know they’re just not ready for your frequency.

Because stillness — true, deep, embodied stillness — is how you hold your power without having to prove a damn thing.

Alright fam, that’s it for today’s episode. Thank you so much for spending this soul-nourishing time with me. If this resonated with you, share it with a friend, leave a review, or better yet — take a moment of stillness right now. Just you, your breath, and the magic that lives in the pause.

You’re a spiritual gangster — soft but strong, still but powerful, and always exactly where you need to be. Until next time… stay grounded, stay glowing, and remember:

 

 

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June 27, 2025

Episode 19: Your Mess Can be Your Message

Hello, spiritual gangsters, welcome back to another episode. I'm your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today, we’re diving deep into something real… something raw… something that honestly might make you sit up a little straighter and see your life from a whole new lens. The title of today’s episode? *Your Mess Can Be Your Message.*

Yeah. I said it. That thing you’re hiding from, the part of your life that you might feel shame around, that chaotic season you barely crawled out of? That might just be the thing that changes someone else's life. That might be the very reason you’re still standing—to share the story of how you got through it.

Now, I know what you're thinking.

“But Amanda, my mess is embarrassing.”

“My story is too much.”

“No one wants to hear what I’ve been through.”

And to that, I say… respectfully… bullshit.

Let me tell you something: this world doesn't need more picture-perfect, overly polished highlight reels. It needs your truth. It needs your courage. It needs your scars and stretch marks and shaky beginnings. Because somewhere out there is someone praying for a sign that they’re not alone. And you, beautiful soul, might be the one to give it to them.

Let’s just be real — life is messy. Healing is messy. Growth? Oh, she’s *definitely* messy. It’s not some perfectly aligned timeline with cute bullet points and Pinterest boards. It’s more like crying in your car between errands, showing up for work with a broken heart, or smiling in public while your whole world feels like it’s burning behind the scenes.

And you know what? That mess… that in-between space… that’s where the magic starts to rise.

I’ve lived through some serious storms — ones I didn’t see coming, ones I didn’t think I’d survive. Divorce. Grief. Starting over. Losing jobs. Losing people. Being cracked wide open by life again and again. I could’ve let those chapters define me as broken… but instead, I decided they would define me as brave.

And maybe you’ve done that too. Maybe you’re in it *right now*. Maybe you’re listening to this with tears in your eyes thinking, “Amanda, I’m still in the thick of it. What could possibly come from this?”

Here’s what: Your comeback story. Your breakthrough. Your purpose, baby.

You see, mess doesn’t disqualify you from living a powerful life — it’s often the exact thing that prepares you to walk boldly into it. You don’t need to wait until everything looks perfect. You’re already equipped. You’re already enough. And your story, even the most painful parts, *especially* the painful parts, matter more than you think.

When you’ve walked through fire and still found a way to show up with love in your heart — *that’s a message.*

When you've picked yourself up off the bathroom floor for the hundredth time and whispered, “Not today, life. I'm not done yet” — *that’s a message.*

And when you’ve learned to laugh again, trust again, or dream again after being shattered — *that’s a message.*

Listen, I’m not here to tell you it’s easy. I’m not going to slap a glittery affirmation on your trauma and tell you to smile through it. Nope. I respect the hell out of the work it takes to rise from the rubble. I know it costs something to heal. To forgive. To tell the truth. To stop pretending and start living authentically. That’s spiritual gangster energy right there.

And if you’ve been through some sh*t and still found a way to hold your head high — even on the days you didn’t feel strong — then you’re already living proof of what’s possible.

You’re not too broken. You’re not too late. You’re not too anything.

You’re human. You’re healing. And you’re holding wisdom that someone else *desperately* needs.

That thing you think disqualifies you? It might just be the thing that qualifies you *the most*.

You don’t have to wait until you’ve got it all figured out before you start sharing your truth. You don’t need a degree in resilience or a perfect Instagram grid to inspire people. Sometimes, the most powerful message comes from the most imperfect place.

Let me say that again for the ones in the back:

**You don’t need to be fully healed to be helpful.**

You can be a work-in-progress and still be a lighthouse for others who are lost at sea. You can be navigating your own darkness and still light the way. You can be in your own process and still plant seeds of hope.

And here’s what I’ve learned — sometimes, the very thing you thought would break you is what actually builds you. Builds your character. Builds your compassion. Builds your connection to others. Because when you’ve been through it, you *see* people differently. You feel their pain. You show up with a level of depth and empathy that no textbook or training can teach.

That’s not weakness. That’s *sacred strength.*

And I want to encourage you today — whatever your “mess” is — don’t hide it. Don’t bury it. Don’t shrink away from it. Learn from it. Speak from it. Build from it. Let it shape you into the kind of soul who shows others what’s *truly* possible.

Because your story… your survival… your strength… someone needs that. Even if it’s just one person. And honestly, even if that one person is *you*.

There is power in your vulnerability. There’s beauty in your brokenness. And there’s purpose in your pain — even if you can’t see it yet.

Some of the strongest, most soulful people I’ve ever met are the ones who’ve had every reason to give up… but didn’t. The ones who’ve buried loved ones, battled illness, rebuilt after betrayal, or sat in the quiet ache of starting over — and still chose to show up. Still chose to be kind. Still chose to rise.

And maybe you’re one of them. Maybe you’ve been down, dragged through the mud, and left wondering if anything good could ever come from what you’ve walked through. But hear me when I say this: *You’re not here by accident.*

Your story has chapters left to write. Your voice has power. And your journey — even the messiest, most uncertain parts — might just be the blueprint someone else needs to find their way home to themselves.

So, share your story. Start messy. Speak raw. Let it be imperfect and real. Let your tears become testimony. Let your pain become purpose. And let your journey become the light that shows someone else what it means to survive, heal, and thrive.

You don’t need permission to take up space with your story. You *are* the permission. You *are* the message.

And look, if no one’s told you lately — I’m proud of you.

I’m proud of how you’ve kept going when you wanted to quit. I’m proud of how you’ve chosen growth over comfort. I’m proud of how you’ve turned your wounds into wisdom. That’s not small work. That’s soul work. That’s warrior work.

And while the world loves a success story, let’s be real — the stories that *stay* with us are the ones where someone rose from the ashes, chose love again, chose to believe again, chose to *begin again.*

So maybe today’s episode isn’t just about reminding you that your mess can be your message — maybe it’s about showing you that you’re already living proof of that truth.

So, to my fellow spiritual gangster listening right now — own your story. Honor your path. And never, ever be ashamed of the journey that shaped you.

Thank you for showing up today, for being open, and for doing the work — even when it’s messy, even when it’s hard. You are seen. You are needed. And your light matters.

Until next time… stay soft, stay strong, and keep living like a spiritual gangster.

I’ll see you next week.

 

 

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June 20, 2025

Episode 18: Self-Love isn't Selfish, its Sacred

Welcome back, Spiritual Gangsters! It’s your host [your name], here again to light up your soul, kick negativity to the curb, and help you claim your power unapologetically.

Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that is absolutely vital but often misunderstood — self-love.

Not the fluffy, Instagram-filtered kind, but the real-deal, messy, sometimes uncomfortable kind.

And here’s the truth I want you to remember:

Self-love isn’t selfish — it’s sacred.

So pour yourself a warm drink, settle in, and let’s unpack this together.

 

Why Does Self-Love Get Such a Bad Rap?

Here’s the thing: loving yourself gets confused with being selfish or narcissistic.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably been hit with some version of this message:

“Don’t be so self-centered.”

“Think of others first.”

“It’s selfish to put yourself before your family or work.”

We live in a culture that applauds self-sacrifice and martyrdom, especially for women and caregivers.

The whole “put yourself last” mentality is baked deep into our collective psyche.

And don’t get me wrong — being compassionate and generous is beautiful. But not at the cost of your soul.

Because when you ignore your own needs for too long, it’s not generosity — it’s self-neglect.

And self-neglect breeds resentment, exhaustion, and emotional burnout.

So the question is — why are we so afraid to love ourselves fully?

For many, it comes from old wounds, limiting beliefs, or cultural conditioning that taught us we’re less than or that our worth is conditional.

But here’s the truth: you are worthy of your own love just as much as anyone else is worthy of theirs.

 

What Self-Love Really Means (Spoiler: It’s Not Bubble Baths Only)

If you think self-love is just about occasional bubble baths or treating yourself to fancy chocolates, I want to gently challenge you.

Self-love is not just surface-level indulgence.

It’s a radical commitment to your well-being — physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

It’s about showing up for yourself — especially when it’s hard.

It means telling yourself the truth even when it hurts.

It means choosing boundaries when you’d rather people-please.

It means looking in the mirror and saying, “I see you, I accept you, I am here for you.”

It’s a daily practice — not a one-time event.

 

The Sacredness of Self-Love: A Story

Let me share something personal…

There was a time in my life when I thought loving myself was a luxury I couldn’t afford.

I was caught in the “busy trap” — always running for others, checking boxes, and ignoring my own hunger for peace and joy.

I thought, “If I stop to care for myself, everything will fall apart.”

Spoiler alert: It did fall apart. But it was exactly what I needed.

That breaking point was painful but sacred — it cracked open my heart and showed me how much I was starving my own soul.

It was then I realized — self-love is survival.

Not in a selfish way, but in a necessary way to be fully present for the people I care about and to live my truest life.

The Ripple Effect of Loving Yourself

When you truly love yourself, it changes everything:

• You set healthier boundaries, because you value your peace.

• You attract relationships that honor your worth.

• You make decisions aligned with your deepest truth, not out of obligation or fear.

• Your confidence blossoms, and so does your resilience.

• You become a living example for others — showing your kids, friends, and community how to honor themselves too.

Think about that for a second…

By loving yourself, you’re not just healing your own wounds — you’re shifting the energy around you, creating a ripple effect of love and empowerment.

Common Myths About Self-Love — Busted

Let’s bust some myths while we’re here:

Myth #1: Self-love is selfish.

Truth: Self-love is the foundation for compassion. You can’t give what you don’t have. Loving yourself fuels your capacity to love others.

Myth #2: Self-love means I’m perfect.

Truth: Self-love is about acceptance, not perfection. It’s loving yourself in spite of flaws and mistakes.

Myth #3: Self-love is indulgent or lazy.

Truth: Self-love often requires courage — to say no, to walk away, to ask for help, or to make tough changes.

Myth #4: Self-love is only for the lucky or spiritual gurus.

Truth: Self-love is a practice available to all of us, regardless of background or beliefs. It starts with simple acts of kindness toward yourself.

Actionable Steps: How to Cultivate Sacred Self-Love Today

Alright, no fluffy pep talk here — real action.

Here’s how to bring sacred self-love into your daily life:

1. Start your mornings with an intention:

Before your feet hit the floor, say a simple affirmation like, “Today, I choose love over fear,” or “I am worthy of care and kindness.”

2. Practice radical honesty with yourself:

Ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” Listen without judgment, and honor that need.

3. Create a ‘no guilt’ boundary list:

Write down three things you will say no to this week — commitments, people, habits — that drain your energy.

4. Celebrate small wins:

Whether it’s getting out of bed on a tough day or saying no when you wanted to say yes — celebrate it. Self-love thrives on acknowledgment.

5. Daily gratitude for YOU:

Write down three things you appreciate about yourself every day — your resilience, your smile, your kindness — whatever feels true.

6. Move your body with love:

Dance, stretch, walk, or whatever moves your spirit. Celebrate your body for all it does for you.

7. Allow yourself to rest — really rest:

Rest isn’t laziness — it’s sacred recovery. Give yourself permission to pause.

Reflection Exercise: Writing to Your Soul

Grab a notebook or your phone and write a letter to yourself.

Imagine you’re writing to your best friend — with kindness, honesty, and compassion.

What would you say? What encouragement do you need?

This practice rewires your inner dialogue and strengthens your relationship with yourself.

When Loving Yourself Feels Impossible

Sometimes, self-love feels like climbing a mountain in flip-flops.

Maybe you’re battling self-doubt, trauma, or pain that makes it hard to see your own worth.

If that’s you, please hear this:

You don’t have to start with big leaps.

Start with tiny steps.

Start by noticing when you judge yourself.

Then gently remind yourself that judgment doesn’t define you.

Start by seeking support — a friend, therapist, or spiritual guide — who can hold space for your healing.

Healing and self-love aren’t linear.

They’re messy and sometimes slow, but every small step forward counts.

Why We NEED to Love Ourselves in This Era

Here’s the real deal — our world is speeding up, throwing so many distractions and demands at us.

We’re battling constant noise, comparison, and stress.

If we don’t anchor ourselves in self-love — in that sacred relationship with our own soul — we risk losing our way completely.

Self-love is our compass, our safe harbor, and our superpower.

It’s not just a feel-good concept — it’s survival, evolution, and revolution.

Final Thoughts

Your worth isn’t something you earn or lose based on your actions or others’ opinions.

Your worth is inherent.

Self-love is the act of reclaiming that worth — over and over again.

It’s sacred, fierce, imperfect, and transformative.

So please remember:

🚀 self-love isn’t selfish — it’s sacred.

Make space for it. Protect it. Celebrate it.

Your greatest love story begins with the relationship you build with yourself.

[Podcast Outro — warm, inspiring]

Alright, Spiritual Gangsters — that’s it for today!

If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend who needs this reminder.

Subscribe, leave a review, and keep showing up for YOU.

Because when you love yourself, you change the world.

I’ll see you next time. Much love. ❤️

 

 

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June 13, 2025

Episode 17: Creating a Life that Feels Good, not just looks good! 

 

Hey hey, welcome back to the Spiritual Gangster Podcast—the vibe-driven podcast for the soulful and strong. I'm your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today we’re diving into something that might ruffle a few feathers. But hey, you know I’m not here to sugarcoat the spiritual stuff. I’m here to keep it real.

So let me ask you something: 

Are you building a life that feels good... or just one that *looks* good on paper?

Be honest. Like really honest. Because I don’t know about you, but I spent way too many years trying to curate a life that looked picture-perfect from the outside. You know the vibe—smiling family pics, a job title that sounded impressive, the right clothes, the nice home, the “I’ve got it all together” mask.

And yet... I was exhausted. 

Worn out from performing. 

Disconnected from myself. 

And honestly? Kinda pissed off at life.

Because even when things looked “right,” they didn’t feel right.

Sound familiar?

We’re going there today. We’re talking about peeling back the damn filters—literal and metaphorical—and rebuilding a life that actually feels like you. One that’s aligned. Soul-led. Messy, maybe—but real. And freeing.

So grab your coffee, your water, your journal, whatever you need, and let’s dive into the shift from surface-level to soul-deep.

Now listen, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with wanting beautiful things. You wanna decorate your home like it belongs in a Pinterest dream board? Go for it. You wanna take the vacation, rock the outfit, get your hair done? Yes, queen, do it all. But let me ask you this:

Are you doing it for you... or for them?

Them—meaning the people watching. The ones scrolling your feed. The ones silently judging or silently admiring. The invisible audience we all pretend we don’t have but secretly perform for. Yeah, them.

Because here’s what I’ve learned—sometimes the prettiest life on the outside is the emptiest on the inside. And the truth is, you can’t “aesthetic” your way out of emotional burnout. You can’t fake joy. You can’t slap a smile on your face and ignore the fact that your soul is screaming for more.

More peace. 

More space. 

More alignment. 

More truth.

And you know what? Sometimes more looks like less.

Less hustle. 

Less noise. 

Less saying yes to crap that drains you. 

Less pretending.

Because building a life that feels good is an inside job. It’s not a performance—it’s a practice. One where you check in with your own energy, your values, your gut, your joy... not your followers, your bank account, or what your ex’s new girlfriend is doing.

Let’s talk about that inner compass for a second—because if you’re anything like me, there was a time when you couldn’t even hear it. You’d buried it under people-pleasing, expectations, survival mode, and straight-up exhaustion.

But here's the magic: you can always come back to it. 

Even if it’s been years. Even if you’ve been off course. Even if you forgot what joy even feels like.

Coming home to yourself is a process. Not a Pinterest board.

You start asking different questions. 

Not “What will they think?” 

But “What do I need right now?”

Not “Will this make me look successful?” 

But “Does this light me up inside?”

Not “How do I keep up?” 

But “Where can I slow down?”

And listen, that takes guts. Because building a life that feels good often requires letting go of the one that doesn’t—even if that one makes sense to everyone else. Even if it looks good on paper. Even if people clap for it.

You might disappoint some people when you start choosing what feels good over what looks good. But hear me when I say this:

You will stop disappointing yourself. 

And that? That is the most sacred shift you’ll ever make.

Let’s get brutally honest for a minute.

Sometimes we stay in jobs, relationships, routines—or even friendships—not because they feel good, but because they’re familiar. Because they make us look stable. Or smart. Or accomplished. Or like we’re “doing it right.”

But if you’re crying in your car before work, snapping at your kids because you’re overstretched, laying in bed at night wondering “is this it?”—then babe, it’s time to check the alignment.

It’s time to start asking: 

Is this life I’m living actually mine—or is it the one I thought I was supposed to want?

You don’t need to blow everything up overnight (although, let’s be real, sometimes we do get that spiritual wrecking ball moment). But you can start by telling the truth. To yourself first. Then slowly, bravely, out loud.

Tell the truth about what’s working and what’s not. 

Tell the truth about what you’re craving. 

Tell the truth about where you’ve been pretending everything’s okay when it’s not.

Because only from that place—of radical honesty—can we start to rebuild. Not just prettier. But truer. Deeper. Aligned.

You don’t need more followers. 

You need more presence. 

You don’t need more stuff. 

You need more peace. 

You don’t need to look like you’ve made it. 

You need to feel like you’re home—in your own damn skin.

Here’s the truth that hit me like a spiritual slap across the face: 

Feeling good isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.

Somewhere along the way, we were taught to equate self-worth with self-sacrifice. That if you weren’t grinding, you weren’t growing. That if you weren’t giving until you were empty, you weren’t being generous. That if you weren’t busy, you weren’t important.

Bull. Shit.

Feeling good—genuinely, soul-deep good—isn’t a luxury. It’s a signal. It means you’re in alignment. It means your life is echoing your truth. It means you’re not betraying yourself to make someone else comfortable.

And that, my love, is what spiritual gangster energy is all about.

Because let’s be honest—anyone can make their life look good. But creating a life that actually feels nourishing? That’s a rebellion. That’s a revolution. That’s saying, “I refuse to settle for a life that looks the part but drains my soul.”

You know what actually looks good? Boundaries. Peace. Joy. Rest. Energy. Loving yourself enough to walk away from what no longer fits. That’s hot. That’s powerful.

You are allowed to want a life that feels like ease. That tastes like freedom. That moves like truth.

So let’s talk about how to actually start building that life.

First, you’ve got to stop outsourcing your worth. 

Seriously. Take it back. From the likes. From the job titles. From your ex. From your mom’s expectations. From society’s checklist. Reclaim it. Own it. Because if your value is based on external validation, you’ll always be one opinion away from feeling unworthy.

Second, get quiet. Like... really quiet. 

Because in the stillness, you’ll hear the whispers. 

The ones that say: “You’re meant for more.” 

“You don’t have to keep pretending.” 

“It’s okay to want something different.” 

“You get to change your mind.”

And third? Start choosing differently. Even in small ways. 

Maybe it’s taking a walk without your phone. 

Maybe it’s saying no to plans you don’t want. 

Maybe it’s journaling in the morning instead of scrolling. 

Maybe it’s finally starting the thing you’ve been dreaming of.

Because those small shifts? They matter. They build momentum. They create a life that feels like yours.

And let’s be real—it’s not always going to be aesthetically perfect. Sometimes the most aligned choices are messy, raw, and totally un-Instagrammable. But guess what?

You’ll breathe deeper. 

You’ll sleep better. 

You’ll stop walking around with that low-grade anxiety buzzing in your chest. 

You’ll feel free.

And here's something else no one talks about enough:

The real glow-up? It’s internal.

It’s when you stop explaining yourself. 

It’s when you stop asking for permission to be happy. 

It’s when your peace becomes non-negotiable. 

It’s when you can sit alone in your own presence and feel whole—not lonely, not lacking, but lit up from the inside out.

You become magnetic. Not because of what you’re wearing, not because your life looks curated—but because your energy is real. Clean. Grounded. Rooted in truth.

And people feel that. They may not always understand it, but they’ll feel it. And the right people? They’ll rise to meet you there. Because when you live in your truth, you give others permission to do the same.

So if you’ve been holding your breath trying to keep up appearances—this is your permission slip to exhale. To drop the act. To come home to yourself. To say yes to the life that’s calling your name even if it makes no damn sense to anyone else.

You don’t have to explain your joy. 

You don’t have to shrink to stay digestible. 

You don’t have to keep curating a life that doesn’t feel like you.

You’re allowed to want more—without guilt, without apology, without waiting for someone else to understand it.

So, what now?

You get to choose. 

Not all at once. Not perfectly. But intentionally. 

You get to start showing up for the life that feels expansive—not performative. For the mornings that begin in peace, not panic. For the relationships that pour into you instead of draining you. For the version of you that’s real, raw, and rooted.

Start where you are. 

With what you have. 

And with the courage to say: 

“I don’t want a life that just looks good. I want one that feels good.”

Let that be your north star.

And if you're in the middle of the messy part—rebuilding, rethinking, restarting—I see you. It’s brave as hell to walk away from the performance and toward your own truth. But I promise you: your soul will thank you.

Your peace will thank you. 

Your energy will thank you. 

Your future self will look back and say, “Damn, I’m proud of her.”

Alright, that’s all for today, beautiful soul. 

If this episode spoke to something deep inside you, share it. Text it to a friend. Post it. Let it ripple. And as always, you can pick up my books Spiritual Gangster Daily Affirmations or the Prompted Journal on Amazon to keep these vibes flowing all week long.

And don’t forget—new episodes drop every Friday, right here. 

Until next time... live the life that feels like home.

[Closing Music] 

Stay strong, stay soft, and stay unapologetically you.

 

 

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June 6, 2025

Episode 16: Energy Doesn’t Lie – Learning to Read Your Vibe

 

Hey hey, beautiful soul! Welcome back to another episode of the Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the vibe-driven podcast for the soulful and strong. I'm your host, Amanda Pieraldi — writer, mama, vibe snob, certified energy feeler, and your spiritual bestie here to lovingly call you out and cheer you on.

Today’s episode is called "Energy Doesn’t Lie – Learning to Read Your Vibe." And oooooh baby, this one is JUICY. So grab your lemon water, your coffee, your matcha — or whatever potion of choice you’re sipping today — and let’s get into it.

Let’s start with the truth bomb: Your energy introduces you before you even open your mouth. YUP. Before you say a single word, people can feel you. And before you go all “woo-woo isn’t real,” let’s get real for a sec: ever walk into a room and instantly feel uncomfortable? Like, you could practically cut the tension with a butter knife?

That’s not your imagination. That’s energy.

Or on the flip side — ever meet someone and immediately feel safe, seen, or like you've known them forever even though you literally just met? Yep. Energy.

Energy doesn’t lie. But people do. People can fake nice. Fake confidence. Even fake joy. But energy? Oh honey, it’ll snitch on your soul real quick.

So why is it important to learn to read your own vibe?

Because if you’re walking around in a constant state of chaos, resentment, burnout, or trying to hold everything together with dry shampoo and caffeine — guess what you’re radiating?

(If you guessed “empowered goddess,” I love you — but no.)

You're radiating stress. Overwhelm. That “don’t talk to me I’m one email away from quitting life” energy. And we’ve all BEEN there.

Now, I’m not saying you need to walk around like some overly zen monk chanting affirmations at the grocery store. (Though if that’s your jam, do you boo.) What I am saying is: you are always emitting a vibe, whether you’re aware of it or not.

The goal is to become aware of it. To learn to read your own damn energy before the world does it for you.

Because here’s the real talk: Your vibe affects your relationships, your money, your creativity, your health — literally everything. Energy is the foundation. It’s not fluff. It’s not optional. It’s the WiFi signal you’re sending out 24/7.

Alright. Let’s break it down with a little VIBE CHECK.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself (and be honest — the vibe police are watching):

1. How do I feel in my body right now?

2. What’s my inner soundtrack saying today?

3. How do people react to me lately?

4. Do I feel grounded, or like I’m running on fumes?

If you answered “uhhh” to most of those — no shame! This isn’t about judgment. This is about awareness.

You can’t clean the vibe if you don’t know it’s messy.

Think of it like this: Your energy is your spiritual hygiene. You wouldn’t leave your house without brushing your teeth (I hope), so why would you leave your house without checking your vibe?

Let’s talk practical ways to raise your vibe without needing sage, crystals, or a full moon ritual. (Though I love all of those, too.)

Vibe-Boosting Tips from Your Spiritual Gangster Bestie:

1. Move Your Body.

2. Hydrate Like a Damn Goddess.

3. Get Outside. Touch Grass. For Real.

4. Say No to Energy Drainers.

5. Laugh. A lot. Especially at yourself.

Also, let’s talk ENERGY CLEARING. No, I don’t mean hiring a priest to throw holy water at your inbox — though honestly, I’ve been tempted.

Clearing your energy can be simple:

- Journaling

- Breathwork

- Music

- Boundaries

Now here’s where it gets juicy: Your vibe is your responsibility.

Mic drop.

Read that again. Your vibe is not your mom’s fault. It’s not your boss’s fault. It’s not your past, your ex, your hormones, or your lack of sleep (okay, maybe sleep a little).

But ultimately — it’s on you to tune in, clean it up, and align your energy with who you actually want to be.

And when you do? You become magnetic. Opportunities flow. Relationships shift. Ideas drop in. Synchronicities start showing up like magic.

Let’s bring it home with a little affirmation moment, because duh — it’s not a Spiritual Gangster episode without a few power statements.

Repeat after me:

- I am deeply aware of the energy I bring into every room.

- I am allowed to reset my vibe as often as needed.

- My energy is powerful, magnetic, and aligned with my truth.

- I choose vibes that match the life I desire.

- I release the need to control everything and vibe higher instead.

Alright beautiful soul, that’s a wrap on today’s episode: Energy Doesn’t Lie – Learning to Read Your Vibe.

If this episode lit a little energetic fire under your booty, please share it with someone who needs a vibe check today. You never know who needs this reminder.

And don’t forget to leave a review, subscribe, and come hang out with me again next week — same vibe, same place. You are the magic. Protect it, nurture it, and share it.

Until next time — stay strong, stay soulful, and stay vibey, Spiritual Gangster.

 

 

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May 30, 2025

Episode 15: The Magic of Morning Routines 

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Okay, so let’s talk about morning routines.

Because apparently, if you’re not up at 5 a.m. doing sun salutations, whispering affirmations into your green juice, and manifesting a six-figure business from your Himalayan salt lamp—what are you even doing with your life?

But real talk? Morning routines have become *a little* unhinged. Like, when did mornings stop being just “wake up and survive” and start becoming this competitive Olympic event of self-optimization?

I saw someone on TikTok say their morning routine takes three hours. Three. HOURS. That’s not a routine—that’s a *part-time job.* And I'm over here celebrating because I brushed my teeth *and* didn’t check my email in bed. Growth.

Now, let me say this—I do believe in the *magic* of mornings. I believe in setting the tone, in choosing your energy before the world hands you its chaos. I believe in rituals and habits and grounding practices. I really do.

But I also believe in *reality*.

And in reality, not every morning is going to look like a Pinterest board. Sometimes the magic is in your kid letting you pee in peace. Sometimes it’s drinking *hot* coffee before it becomes iced by neglect. Sometimes the win is just *waking up* and not immediately doom-scrolling.

So if you’ve ever felt guilty because your morning didn’t include 37 steps of holistic perfection, let me be the one to say: *Stop that*. You're not broken. You're just human. And probably tired.

Let’s get into what morning routines *can* be—without the pressure, without the perfection, and without the influencer voice telling you to align your chakras before 6 a.m. or risk emotional collapse.

Let’s start here: What actually makes a morning powerful?

It’s not the celery juice. It’s not the matching yoga set. It’s the *intention*. It’s the *energy*. It’s the *choice* to begin your day with something—*anything*—that reconnects you to yourself.

Maybe it’s breathwork. Maybe it’s blasting Beyoncé while you put on mascara and hype yourself up in the mirror like you're about to storm the stock market. Maybe it’s a five-minute walk outside where you talk to the trees like they're your coworkers. (They listen better than actual coworkers, anyway.)

The point is, your morning routine doesn’t have to look like *anyone else’s* to be sacred. It doesn’t have to be long. It doesn’t have to be photogenic. It just has to be *yours.*

For example, my current morning routine? Here it is. I wake up. I say a little “thank you” to the Universe because I’m not dead—always a plus. I roll over. I check in with myself. I ask, “How are we doing today?” Not the version of me that shows up for others. The *real* me. The one with the messy hair and the overactive brain and the dreams that left a weird emotional hangover.

Then maybe I journal. Maybe I stretch. Maybe I do absolutely nothing and just sit in silence with my coffee and stare at a wall like I’m in a softcore existential crisis. And *that’s okay*.

Because it’s intentional. It’s grounding. And it’s mine.

You see, the danger with morning routines is when they become another place we beat ourselves up. Another checkbox we shame ourselves over. “Ugh, I didn’t meditate today.” “I only journaled one sentence.” “I skipped affirmations.” Girl, please. Your soul isn’t keeping score.

There is no gold star for spiritual performance. You don’t get extra enlightenment points for completing your morning routine like it’s a damn scavenger hunt. The only thing that matters is how it *feels.*

Does it connect you? Center you? Bring you back to your truth?

Because that’s the magic. That’s the medicine.

And for those of you who say, “But I’m not a morning person”—hey, neither is my nervous system. The goal isn’t to suddenly become one of those radiant sunbeams who springs out of bed like a Disney princess. The goal is to *meet yourself where you are* and add just *one thing* that brings you home to yourself.

That’s it. One thing.

Light a candle. Pull a tarot card. Stretch. Breathe. Don’t talk to anyone for 20 minutes and protect your peace like a dragon guards its hoard. All of it counts.

And listen, your routine can evolve. There are seasons where you’re up at 6 doing breathwork and setting intentions like a goddess. And then there are seasons where you wake up, curse softly into your pillow, and survive. Both are valid. Both are spiritual. Both are *you*.

So today, I want to give you permission to make your morning routine *your own*. Strip away the pressure. Drop the guilt. And come back to the simplest question: “What would feel good to start my day?”

Start there. Then do it again tomorrow. And the next day. And let that be enough.

You are not less spiritual because you didn’t journal. You are not less worthy because you didn’t rise with the sun. You are a whole, sacred, messy, beautiful soul who deserves mornings that *nourish* you—not drain you.

So go create a routine that makes you feel alive. That makes you feel held. That makes you feel like the badass beam of light that you are.

And remember: it’s not about doing it “right.” It’s about doing it with love.

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That’s it for today, friends. Go drink your coffee. Or your tea. Or your mushroom elixir that tastes like bark but makes you feel ethereal. I love you. Your mornings matter. But so do *you*.

Stay spiritual. Stay gangster.

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May 23, 2025

Episode 14: Aligning with Your Higher Self

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Amanda (host):

“Hey, hey, beautiful souls!

Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the space where realness meets radiance and where we don’t just level up, we LIGHT UP.

I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today we’re talking about something that will shift your whole life if you let it:

Aligning with your Higher Self.

Because let’s be honest — you didn’t come here just to pay bills, check boxes, and stay small.

You came here to embody your divine magic.

You came here to walk like the queen you are.

Today, we’re going deep, getting real, and of course — sprinkling some sass along the way.

Grab your coffee, your crystals, or your car keys — whatever you’re vibing with — and let’s go.”

(Section 1: Who is Your Higher Self Anyway?)

“Let’s break it down.

Your Higher Self is NOT some distant, perfect version of you living in a mansion with perfect hair.

Your Higher Self is you, minus the fear.

Minus the doubt.

Minus the conditioning that told you who you ‘should’ be.

Your Higher Self is pure you.

Radiant you.

Unstoppable, unbothered, wildly authentic YOU.

It’s the you who already knows the way.

The you who doesn’t beg for validation because she’s busy being the damn validation.

Aligning with your Higher Self isn’t about becoming someone else — it’s about remembering who you’ve always been.”

(Section 2: Signs You’re Out of Alignment)

“Let’s get spicy — you know I’m not here to let you stay stuck.

Signs you’re NOT vibing with your Higher Self:

• You’re constantly second-guessing yourself.

• You’re over-explaining your worth to people who don’t even deserve a front-row seat.

• You’re hustling, forcing, controlling outcomes instead of trusting.

• You feel disconnected, drained, disillusioned.

Babe, if you’re living in survival mode, it’s time to tap OUT of that and tap BACK into your soul power.

Because you don’t thrive from a place of fear — you thrive from a place of faith.”

(Section 3: Why Alignment is the Ultimate Glow Up)

“Forget the outer glow-up for a second. (Though yes, queen, slay that too.)

The ultimate flex is energetic alignment.

When you’re vibing with your Higher Self, you walk different.

You talk different.

You move through the world with an energy that says:

‘I know who TF I am.’

You stop chasing.

You start attracting.

You stop begging.

You start embodying.

People FEEL it before you even say a word.”

(Section 4: How to Align with Your Higher Self — For Real)

“Okay, you’re like, ‘Amanda, girl, I’m ready — HOW though?!’

Let’s get practical and powerful:

1. Tune Into Your Inner Wisdom

Every day, spend a few minutes tuning in.

Ask yourself: What would my Higher Self choose today?

Spoiler alert: She would choose love, courage, trust, joy — not fear.

2. Embody Before You See

You don’t wait to feel confident until you land the dream job.

You embody confidence now.

You move like the opportunity is already yours.

Because it is.

3. Release What’s Not Aligned

Whew — this one’s spicy.

If it doesn’t match your Higher Self — the toxic friendship, the dead-end job, the outdated self-talk — it’s gotta go.

Clear the clutter. Make room for miracles.

4. Speak the Language of Your Higher Self

Your words are spells.

Speak life over yourself.

Speak victory.

Speak like the damn Queen that you are.

5. Take Aligned Action

Dreams without action are just cute Pinterest boards.

Move. Leap. Say yes. Say no. Trust the nudge and follow the pull.”

(Section 5: Your Higher Self Isn’t ‘Perfect’)

“Hot tea for the soul:

Your Higher Self isn’t some perfect, untouchable goddess who never cries, never doubts, never struggles.

She’s raw.

She’s real.

She feels everything — and still chooses faith over fear.

Alignment isn’t about perfection.

It’s about devotion.

Devotion to your growth.

Devotion to your light.

Devotion to your joy.”

(Section 6: Daily Rituals to Stay Aligned)

“Want to keep that Higher Self energy flowing? Here are a few daily rituals:

• Morning Alignment: Before you scroll, connect. Breathe. Set an intention.

• Mirror Work: Look in the mirror and affirm who you are becoming. Out loud. Every day.

• Sacred Movement: Move your body intuitively — dance, stretch, walk like the divine being you are.

• Gratitude Blitz: Flood your system with gratitude. Gratitude raises your frequency instantly.

• Nightly Check-In: Reflect: Where was I aligned today? Where can I soften tomorrow?

It’s not about perfection — it’s about presence.”

(Section 7: Final Love Bomb)

“So here’s the mic-drop moment, babe:

Your Higher Self isn’t out there somewhere.

She’s in you.

Right now.

Waiting for you to say yes.

Say yes to the version of you that doesn’t settle.

Say yes to the version of you that doesn’t shrink.

Say yes to the version of you that shines unapologetically.

Because when you align with her — when you become her — you change your life.

You change the room you walk into.

You change the world.

The glow-up you’re craving?

It’s an inside job, baby.

And trust me — you’re already more powerful than you know.”

Amanda (host):

“Alright, my radiant, unstoppable souls — that’s a wrap for today’s episode!

If this hit you right in your spirit (and I know it did), share it on Instagram, tag me @spiritualgangsterpod, and tell your Higher Self I said, ‘Hey, gorgeous.’

Until next time:

Stay aligned. Stay divine. And keep living like a Spiritual Gangster.”

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May 16, 2025

Episode 13: The Power of Presence

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Amanda (host):

“Hey, hey, beautiful souls!

Welcome back to another episode of The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — where we blend real talk with soul medicine and keep it all just a little bit sassy.

I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today we’re diving into something that is both so simple and so revolutionary:

The Power of Presence.

Like seriously — presence is the real flex.

Forget chasing, grinding, and overthinking your way into a better life — the real magic is right here, right now.

So whether you’re multitasking or mindlessly scrolling while you listen — yes, I see you — today’s mission is to call your sweet soul back home to this moment.

Ready? Let’s vibe.”

(Section 1: Why Presence is the New Power Move)

“First things first — being PRESENT is not some airy-fairy, yogi-on-a-mountain-in-Tibet type of thing.

Presence is a straight-up POWER move.

When you are fully here — not in your regrets about the past or your anxiety about the future — you become magnetic.

You become unshakable.

You become a whole force of nature.

Because when you’re present, you’re no longer leaking your energy into a million fake realities.

You’re anchored.

You’re alive.

You’re powerful AF.

And babe, the world FEELS that energy.

The Universe feels it too.”

(Section 2: How We’re Addicted to the ‘Next Thing’)

“Let’s get real — most of us are low-key addicted to the ‘next thing.’

Next notification.

Next goal.

Next text.

Next crisis.

We live in a culture that glorifies hustle, busy-ness, and constant upgrading.

And don’t get me wrong — ambition is sexy.

I love a good glow-up moment.

BUT — if you’re always living for the next thing, you’re never actually living.

You’re just running on a hamster wheel, looking fabulous but exhausted.

(Ever been there? Ohhh, same.)

Presence is about stepping off the wheel and realizing:

This moment is enough. I am enough. Right here, right now.

No achievement required. No filter needed.”

 

(Section 3: Presence is the Portal to Peace)

“Here’s the real magic:

When you anchor into presence, you open the portal to true peace.

Not fake peace.

Not ‘I’m fine’ peace.

Not ‘let me light a candle and pretend I’m zen’ peace.

I’m talking about a deep, embodied sense of ‘I’m okay. I’m safe. I’m here.’

When you’re fully present, even if life is messy — you realize you can handle it.

Because you’re not carrying all the made-up catastrophes from your mind.

You’re only carrying what’s real right now.

And usually, what’s real right now?

It’s manageable. It’s breathe-able. It’s doable.”

(Section 4: Why Presence is Sexy AF)

“Let’s just say it:

Presence is sexy.

Have you ever been around someone who is actually there with you?

Not on their phone.

Not halfway out the door.

Not just nodding while thinking about their grocery list.

Someone who is really locked in, eyes sparkling, energy open?

It’s magnetic. It’s intoxicating.

And YOU can be that person.

You can walk into a room and shift the whole vibe simply by being the most present person there.

Not because you’re trying to prove anything — but because your energy is undeniable.”

(Section 5: How to Practice Presence in a World Built for Distraction)

“Alright, let’s talk about the HOW — because saying ‘be present’ without giving you tools is like handing you a smoothie with no straw.

Here’s how to actually live it:

1. Micro-Moments of Presence

You don’t need to meditate for 4 hours a day.

(Unless you want to, then pop off, queen.)

Start by creating tiny portals of presence.

 

When you’re drinking your coffee — taste it.

When you’re showering — feel the water.

When you’re talking to someone — actually listen.

 

2. Breath as an Anchor

Your breath is a portable anchor to now.

Whenever you feel scattered, take three deep, conscious breaths.

Boom. You’re back.

 

3. Single-Task Like a Rebel

Multi-tasking is a scam.

It makes you less efficient and way more stressed.

Be a rebel. Do one thing at a time. And do it fully.

 

4. Tech Boundaries

Ooh, this one’s spicy.

Your phone is designed to steal your presence.

Set boundaries. Turn off unnecessary notifications. Take tech breaks.

Your peace > someone else’s urgency.

 

5. Presence in Emotions

And here’s a power move most people skip:

When you feel an emotion — be present with it.

Don’t shove it down. Don’t run from it.

Feel it fully. Let it move through you.

Presence is healing.”

 

(Section 6: Presence is a Superpower You Already Have)

“You don’t have to become present.

You already ARE presence.

Presence is your natural state, underneath all the noise.

You don’t have to earn it. You just have to remember it.

And every time you choose presence — even for 30 seconds — you’re reclaiming your power.

You’re reclaiming your peace.

You’re reclaiming your magic.

Presence says:

‘I trust life. I trust myself. I trust this moment.’

And that trust?

That’s where miracles happen.”

 

(Section 7: Final Mic Drop Moment)

“So here’s your reminder today:

You are not behind.

You are not late.

You are not missing anything.

Life is happening RIGHT NOW.

Not someday. Not when you get ‘there.’

Right here. Right now.

This moment — messy, beautiful, sacred — is your life.

So savor it.

Taste it.

Touch it.

Breathe it.

Bless it.

Because babe — presence is the real glow up.”

(beat)

“Alright, my gorgeous gangsters of the soul — that’s what I’ve got for you today!

If this episode brought you back to yourself, share it on Instagram, tag me @spiritualgangsterpod, and let’s spread the gospel of presence far and wide.

Until next time: Stay present. Stay powerful. And keep living like a Spiritual Gangster!”

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May 9, 2025

Episode 12: Gratitude as a Daily Ritual

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Amanda (host):

“Hello, my beautiful, badass Spiritual Gangsters!

Welcome back to another juicy episode of The Spiritual Gangster Podcast, where we spill the spiritual tea and remind you that your power is already within you. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today, honey, we’re talking about a game-changer: Gratitude as a Daily Ritual.

Now listen — I know gratitude gets thrown around like confetti these days.

‘Be grateful.’

‘Have a gratitude journal.’

‘Count your blessings.’

Yeah, yeah, yeah — but let’s be real: Most people treat gratitude like that awkward holiday guest you only acknowledge once a year at Thanksgiving. NOT TODAY, SATAN. Not in this space!

We are about to make gratitude your DAILY, sexy, soul-filling ritual. A ritual that’ll leave you feeling unstoppable, magnetic, and dripping in abundance.

Let’s dive in!”

What Gratitude Really Is — And What It’s Not

First off, let’s get something straight.

Gratitude is not pretending everything is perfect. It’s not about slapping a fake smile on your face when your life feels like a dumpster fire. We don’t do toxic positivity around here, boo. Gratitude is about acknowledging what is good, even when everything else feels messy.

It’s choosing — on purpose — to shift your focus from what’s lacking to what’s thriving.

It’s saying, ‘Hey, life’s a little chaotic right now, but look at these amazing people, these small wins, these moments of magic that still exist.’

And guess what? Gratitude doesn’t mean you stop striving for more. It just means you stop bulldozing over your blessings while you’re on your way to the next thing.

(Yeah, I’m side-eyeing you, fellow overachiever.)

Why Gratitude Daily Changes the Damn Game

You know those mornings when you wake up and everything feels… heavy? Like the world sat on your chest overnight?

That’s exactly when gratitude steps in like your fiercest hype girl.

When you make gratitude a daily ritual — not just a ‘when I remember’ kind of thing — you rewire your beautiful brain. Like, scientifically. Your mind starts searching for the good automatically. Your energy rises. Your vibration lifts. And the Universe? Oh baby, it notices. It says, ‘Ohhh, she’s vibin’ high — let’s send her more good stuff!’

Practicing daily gratitude:

Reduces anxiety and depression

Boosts your immune system

Improves your relationships (because you’re less of a cranky gremlin)

Makes you more magnetic to opportunities, abundance, and love

Basically, gratitude is like that secret serum in video games that gives you superpowers — except it’s real life.

How to Actually Make Gratitude a Ritual (Not a Chore)

Alright, let’s get practical. How do you weave gratitude into your daily life without it feeling like another boring task on your to-do list?

1. The 3-Minute Morning Ritual

Before you check your phone. Before you scroll Instagram. Before your mind even remembers it’s supposed to be stressed about emails — sit up in bed, take a breath, and think of three things you’re grateful for.

Doesn’t have to be deep, darling.

Could be your cozy sheets. Your dog’s snoring. The fact that coffee exists.

Simple = powerful.

2. Gratitude Walks

Take your booty outside and go for a 5-minute walk. As you walk, mentally list everything you’re grateful for — your legs for carrying you, the fresh air, the neighbor’s flowers you didn’t have to plant but get to enjoy. Watch how your energy shifts by the time you circle the block.

3. Write a Gratitude Love Letter

Pick one person every week and write a mini love letter (or text, or voice note) telling them what you appreciate about them. Trust me, you’ll make their day — and you’ll feel like a ball of sunshine yourself.

4. End-of-Day Power Down

At night, instead of scrolling yourself into an anxiety spiral (I see you), write down five things you’re grateful for that happened that day. Even on the trash days. ESPECIALLY on the trash days.

The "Yeah, But What If My Life is a Hot Mess?” Moment

Okay, real talk.

What about the days when gratitude feels impossible? When life feels like it sucker-punched you, stole your wallet, and then kicked you while you were down?

Here’s the truth bomb:

Gratitude isn’t always easy.

But it’s most powerful when it’s hardest.

Even if the only thing you can find gratitude for is having breath in your lungs, that counts.

Even if it’s just being thankful for hot showers or a meme that made you laugh when you wanted to cry — THAT COUNTS.

The magic isn’t in pretending everything’s perfect. The magic is in choosing to find the light when you’re surrounded by shadows.

And THAT, my loves, is when you truly become unstoppable.

Bonus Sass: Gratitude is a Magnet, Not a Manipulator

One quick thing before we move forward — because I know someone’s thinking it.

Gratitude isn’t a tool you use to ‘manifest faster’ by forcing yourself to be happy.

It’s not spiritual manipulation.

It’s an authentic expression of appreciation — no strings attached.

When you’re genuinely grateful, you become a vibrational match for more good things naturally.

Not because you twisted the Universe’s arm, but because your energy is aligned, expansive, and irresistible.

Real recognize real, babe.

The Universe can tell the difference between fake gratitude and the real deal.

The Ripple Effect of Gratitude (Spoiler: You’re Changing the World)

Here’s the secret sauce that most people don’t tell you:

Your gratitude doesn’t just change YOUR life — it sends ripples out into the world.

When you show up grateful:

You treat people better.

You inspire others to find their own blessings.

You create tiny pockets of joy everywhere you go.

You holding gratitude in your heart is a radical, badass act of rebellion against a world that thrives on negativity.

It’s soul activism, baby. And it’s powerful as hell.

Final Thoughts: Gratitude as Your Superpower

So here’s your mission, Spiritual Gangsters:

Make gratitude non-negotiable.

Make it sacred.

Make it sexy.

Let it be the foundation you build your dreams on — because a grateful heart is an abundant heart.

You don’t have to wait until you have everything you want to feel grateful.

You can start right freaking now. With whatever you’ve got.

And THAT energy? It’s pure magic.

I’m so grateful for each and every one of you tuning in, growing, and glowing with me. You are the reason this community is so damn special.

Now go out there and start a gratitude revolution — and trust me, the Universe is already lining up blessings with your name on them.

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May 2, 2025

Episode 11: Healing the Hustle Mentality

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Amanda (host):

"Hey, hey, beautiful souls!

Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the space where we dive deep into real talk, raw energy, and unapologetic growth. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today we’re diving into a topic that is near and dear to my heart. We’re talking about healing that hustle mentality.

You know, the one that tells you to grind and push until your energy’s completely drained. The mentality that says, ‘If you’re not busy, you’re lazy’ — and honey, we all know that’s a lie. We’ve been conditioned to believe that working ourselves into the ground is the only path to success, and I’m here to call bullshit on that.

So grab your favorite cup of tea (or whatever fuel you need) and let’s get into it. Today we’re going to heal that hustle mentality, and trust me, you’ll be feeling lighter by the end of this episode."

 

 

(Section 1: What Is the Hustle Mentality?)

"Let’s start by getting clear on what we mean by hustle mentality. It’s this belief that your value is determined by how much you produce, how much you work, and how busy you are. If you’re not constantly moving and working and ‘doing the thing,’ you start feeling like you’re falling behind.

But where does this hustle mentality come from? Let’s break it down:

For many of us, we’ve been taught to chase success from a very young age. From school projects to job interviews to social media, society loves to measure our worth by our output. And the message is clear: ‘More work equals more worth.’

Here’s the problem with that: When you’re in hustle mode, you’re constantly chasing the next task, the next goal, the next big thing, without ever allowing yourself the time to truly be. We lose sight of who we are in the process, and we start defining ourselves by what we can do for others or how much we’ve accomplished.

So, let me ask you: How often do you pause and ask yourself if what you’re doing actually feels good? How often do you check in with your soul and ask if this hustle is aligned with your higher purpose?

I’m here to remind you: Your worth isn’t tied to your productivity. Period."

(Section 2: The Consequences of the Hustle Mentality)

"Now, let’s talk about the consequences of living in hustle mode. Because, baby, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies when you’re running at full speed all the time.

We’re talking about burnout. Stress. Anxiety. Exhaustion. Mental fog. And worst of all, a constant feeling of being ‘never enough.’

When you’re caught in hustle culture, you end up pushing your body, mind, and spirit to the point of depletion. And eventually, something has to give. Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve worked until I was physically sick, emotionally drained, and spiritually exhausted — all because I was convinced that I wasn’t doing enough. That I wasn’t enough.

But here’s the hard truth: Hustle culture has no finish line. The grind never stops until you decide to stop it.

Some signs you’re living in hustle mentality include:

• Physical exhaustion — You’re always tired. Like, no matter how much sleep you get, it’s never enough.

• Mental burnout — Your creativity dries up. You feel like you’re running on autopilot.

• The constant pressure to do more — You’re always thinking, ‘I should be doing more. I should be achieving more.’

• A disconnect from yourself — You stop enjoying the process and just focus on the end result. You lose sight of what truly brings you joy.

This constant pressure to do more is not only unsustainable, but it’s also unhealthy. And it’s time to heal that."

(Section 3: The Shift — From Hustle to Alignment)

"So, how do we shift out of hustle mode and into alignment? How do we stop doing so much and start being more?

First of all, it’s not about ditching work entirely. We’re not here to be lazy. It’s about shifting from a mindset of constant doing to a mindset of intentional action. It’s about aligning your actions with your true desires, your soul’s purpose, and your deepest values.

Here’s how we start:

1. Redefine Success

You’ve got to let go of the old definition that tells you success is all about hustle. Success is about alignment — aligning with your soul’s purpose, your heart’s desires, and your passion. Success doesn’t need to cost you your health, your peace, or your sanity. Success is flow. Success is ease.

2. Set Boundaries

This one is huge. If you’re saying yes to everything and everyone, you’re saying no to your own energy. And honey, that’s not sustainable. Start setting clear, strong boundaries in your life. Whether it’s work, friends, or family, you’ve got to protect your energy. Boundaries are not selfish; they’re necessary.

3. Embrace Stillness

I know, I know — being still feels impossible when you’ve been running at 100 mph for years. But I promise you, stillness is where the magic happens. You can’t hear your intuition if you’re always in motion. You can’t connect with your Higher Self if you’re constantly chasing the next goal. Give yourself permission to do nothing. Embrace the art of rest, of sitting in silence, of just being.

4. Delegate and Let Go of Control

You don’t have to do everything yourself. You don’t have to have your hands in every single thing. Let go of the need to control every detail of your life. Trust yourself and trust others to step in and help. When you let go of control, you make space for miracles to flow in."

(Section 4: Healing from Burnout)

"Now let’s talk about healing. Because let’s be real, if you’ve been living in hustle culture for a while, you’ve probably experienced burnout at some point. And burnout is no joke. It’s a slow drain that takes everything from you, leaving you feeling empty, uninspired, and stuck.

Healing from burnout takes time, but it’s totally possible. Here are a few steps to help you along the way:

1. Rest and Recharge

I know, it sounds simple, but it’s so essential. You need to rest. Not ‘work on rest,’ but actually rest. Take naps. Take a day off. Let your body and mind reset. I’m talking about real rest — the kind that doesn’t come with guilt or anxiety.

2. Nourish Your Body

When we’re in hustle mode, we often forget to take care of ourselves physically. We don’t eat properly. We don’t hydrate. We don’t sleep enough. But you can’t expect to thrive when your body is neglected. Start nourishing yourself. Drink more water. Eat foods that fuel you. Move your body in ways that feel good.

3. Disconnect to Reconnect

Sometimes, the best way to heal is to disconnect from the constant noise. Turn off your phone, step away from social media, and reconnect with what really matters: yourself. Spend time in nature, read a good book, or take a walk. Disconnecting from the digital world helps you reconnect with your inner world.

4. Let Go of Guilt

This is key. You’re not lazy for resting. You’re not less productive for taking time for yourself. In fact, you’re more productive when you give yourself time to recharge. Let go of the guilt that comes with rest and start seeing it as an investment in your long-term health, creativity, and success."

(Section 5: The Long-Term Benefits of Healing the Hustle Mentality)

"So, why go through all this effort? Why let go of the hustle mentality and make these changes? Because healing from hustle culture isn’t just about feeling better today — it’s about creating a life that supports your long-term well-being, growth, and happiness.

Here are some of the long-term benefits of making this shift:

1. More Creativity

When you’re not constantly chasing the next task, you give your mind the space to be creative. You’ll find that your ideas flow naturally. Inspiration comes when you’re not forcing it.

2. Stronger Relationships

When you’re not always in ‘go mode,’ you have the energy and presence to nurture your relationships. You’ll be more present with your loved ones, more connected with your friends, and more in tune with what truly matters.

3. A Deeper Sense of Purpose

When you release the hustle, you make room for your true purpose to come forward. You align with what you’re truly meant to do in this life, and you start to feel more fulfilled.

4. Sustained Success

Real success is sustainable success. When you heal from the hustle, you build a life that’s sustainable. You stop burning out and start thriving, consistently, over the long term."

(Final Thoughts)

"So, my spiritual gangsters, I want you to know this: You don’t have to hustle to be successful. You don’t have to sacrifice your peace for productivity. You don’t have to burn out to burn bright.

You are worthy, you are enough, and you deserve to live a life of ease, flow, and abundance. So let go of the hustle. Heal from the grind. Step into alignment, and watch how the universe will meet you with everything you’ve been working for — but in a way that feels good.

Remember: you don’t have to prove anything. Just be, and the rest will follow.

I’m sending you so much love. Now go out there and slay from a place of ease."

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April 25, 2025

Episode 10: Boundaries are Sacred

[Intro Music]

 

 

Amanda (playful and punchy):

Helllooooo, my badass, bright-light-beaming Spiritual Gangsters! Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — where we get real, raw, and ridiculously empowered. I’m your host Amanda Pieraldi — your soul sister, healing hype girl, and human permission slip to stop people-pleasing and start living your truth.

And today? Oh baby, today we’re diving into a topic that makes the people-pleasers panic and the healers squirm.

Boundaries.

Yes. That word. That spicy, terrifying, life-changing word.

Listen… if just hearing the word “boundaries” made your nervous system twitch — same, babe. But stick with me, because we’re about to flip the script. Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re not mean. They’re not selfish. Boundaries are SACRED.

And if no one has told you this today: You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to say no. And you are allowed to protect your peace like it’s the last cookie on the plate at a spiritual brunch.

So — let’s get into it.

[Section 1: WTF Even *Are* Boundaries?]

Okay. First off — let’s clear the spiritual smoke and define it.

A boundary is a line that protects your energy, your time, your values, and your nervous system from being hijacked by someone else’s chaos.

It’s not about controlling others. It’s about honoring yourself.

Think of boundaries like energetic skin. They tell you where you end and someone else begins. And let me tell you — if your boundaries are paper-thin, everything starts to bleed together: other people’s opinions, their drama, their projections, their “Can you justs?” and “I know you’re busy, but…”

Hard pass.

When you don't have boundaries, you turn into an emotional sponge. And not the cute kind. The crusty kitchen sponge that smells like burnout and resentment.

[Section 2: Why We Struggle With Boundaries — Especially the Spiritual Ones]

Now, let’s talk about why boundaries feel hard — especially for my spiritual, big-hearted, “I-just-want-to-help-everyone” babes.

We were taught that love means sacrifice. That being “nice” is more important than being honest. That if you say “no,” you’re cold, ungrateful, or — my personal favorite — difficult.

*Insert eye roll here.*

Newsflash: You can be kind and have boundaries. You can be spiritual and say no. You can be loving and still leave the damn group chat.

Boundaries don’t disconnect you from others — they deepen the connection to yourself.

And let’s be real — if your light is always on for everyone else, eventually the power goes out. Protecting your energy isn’t selfish. It’s sacred maintenance.

[Section 3: Signs Your Boundaries Are Leaking Like a Spiritual Sieve]

Let’s play a little game I like to call: “Are Your Boundaries Broken?”

- You say yes when your gut is screaming no?

- You feel guilty for resting?

- You keep answering texts when you need silence?

- You dread certain people but keep seeing them out of obligation?

- You feel like your energy is constantly being drained?

Ding, ding, ding! You might be due for a boundary tune-up.

And don’t worry — we’ve all been there. I call it energetic people-pleasing burnout. It’s when your aura is exhausted, your voice gets shaky, and suddenly you’re resenting everyone… including yourself.

But guess what? That resentment isn’t a flaw. It’s feedback. It’s your soul saying, “Hey babe… we need some boundaries.”

[Section 4: Boundary-Setting Isn’t Mean — It’s Medicine]

Here’s where we rewire the programming:

Setting boundaries isn’t rejection — it’s redirection.

It’s not about shutting people out — it’s about calling your power in.

Boundaries say:

- “I love you, and I love me too.”

- “I’m here for you, but I’m not here to save you.”

- “My time matters. My energy matters. My NO is sacred.”

And if someone gets offended by your boundary? That’s okay. Their discomfort isn’t your responsibility. Let me say it louder for the people in the back:

You are not responsible for how others respond to your boundaries.

If your boundary ruins the relationship, the relationship was built on your compliance, not your truth. And we’re not doing that anymore.

[Section 5: Scripts for the Spiritually Sassy Boundary-Setter]

Okay, let’s make this juicy and practical.

Here are some go-to, spiritually-aligned boundary phrases that still let you keep your halo intact:

- “That doesn’t work for me right now, but I hope you find what you need.”

- “I’m not available for that, but I trust you’ll figure it out.”

- “I’m choosing rest tonight — thank you for understanding.”

- “I’d love to support you, but not at the expense of my own well-being.”

- “I’m no longer available for one-sided conversations.”

- “This isn’t a good fit for me — and I trust that’s okay.”

See? Boundaries don’t have to be harsh — they can be holy. Loving. Direct. And DRIPPING in self-respect.

[Section 6: Boundaries as a Spiritual Practice]

Let’s flip the narrative: boundaries aren’t just practical… they’re spiritual AF.

When you set a boundary, you affirm your worth.

When you say no, you’re saying yes to alignment.

When you protect your energy, you amplify your impact.

Boundaries are how your spirit says, “I take myself seriously.”

They create the container for your magic to flourish.

Because let’s be honest — unboundaried spiritual people are often exhausted, scattered, and resentful. But the ones who claim their space? Honey, they GLOW. They radiate. They move through the world like they are sovereign AF.

And that’s the vibe we’re stepping into, okay?

[Amanda’s Boundary-Setting Starter Kit]

You KNOW I love a toolkit. So here’s your Boundary-Setting Starter Pack:

1. The Pause Button:

   When someone asks you something, say “Let me get back to you” — and actually think about whether it feels aligned.

2. The Mirror Mantra:

   Look at yourself and say:

   “My energy is sacred. I do not owe access to anyone.”

3. The Nervous System Check-In:

   If your body tightens up, that’s a NO. Full stop.

4. The Energetic Audit:

   Every week, ask: “Who or what drained me?” Then… adjust accordingly.

5. The Rehearsal:

   Practice boundary-setting out loud. In the shower. In the car. Pretend you’re Beyoncé. Make it a whole vibe.

[Outro — Say It with Me, Gangsters]

Alright, my sacred rebels — here’s your closing reminder:

You are not a doormat. You are a damn divine doorway.

Boundaries are how we stop abandoning ourselves for the comfort of others.

So if you needed a sign to cancel that thing you don’t want to do?

Here it is.

If you needed permission to protect your peace?

Granted.

If you needed to hear that you don’t need to be available 24/7?

I SAID WHAT I SAID.

You are allowed to choose you.

You are allowed to take up space.

And you are allowed to let your boundaries be bold, beautiful, and blessed.

If this episode lit something up in you, share it with your fellow recovering people-pleasers, leave a juicy review, and tag me @spiritualgangsterpod so we can spread this sacred gospel together.

Until next time — stay soft, stay sassy, and protect that energy like it’s spiritual gold.

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April 18, 2025

Episode 9: Self-Compassion is a Superpower

[Intro Music]

Amanda (with energy and sass):

Hellooooo, my gorgeous, gritty, growth-loving Spiritual Gangsters! Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the sacred space where we talk all things woo, wild, and way too real. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi — your hype woman for healing, your coach for consciousness, and your bestie when your shadow self is acting up.

And today… ohhh honey, today we are talking about one of the most underrated, misunderstood, and totally badass spiritual tools out there:

Self-compassion.

Yup. Being kind to your damn self.

Who knew?

This episode is for anyone who has ever beat themselves up for not being “far enough,” “good enough,” “productive enough,” or — my personal favorite — “spiritual enough.” (Yes, the irony is real.)

So grab your matcha, wrap yourself in a blanket like the divine burrito you are, and let’s talk about why self-compassion isn’t just some fluffy feel-good buzzword — it’s a superpower.

[Section 1: Self-Compassion — Not Just Bubble Baths and Affirmations]

Okay. First things first.

When I say self-compassion, what comes to mind?

Let me guess — soft music, face masks, bubble baths, maybe whispering sweet nothings to your inner child while petting a cat and journaling in cursive.

Listen, I love a good spa day as much as the next soul-seeking Sagittarius, but real self-compassion? It’s grittier than that. It’s not always cute. It’s not always pretty. And spoiler alert — it’s not always Instagrammable.

True self-compassion is when you royally screw something up — like, full-on dumpster fire vibes — and instead of dragging yourself through the shame swamp, you go,

“Okay. That sucked. I’m human. I’m learning. And I’m still worthy.”

Whew.

You feel that? That’s called healing, babe.

That’s your soul unclenching.

[Section 2: The Inner Critic — That Loud B*tch in Your Head]

Now let’s talk about the villain of this episode: the Inner Critic.

You know her.

That snarky voice in your head that sounds suspiciously like Regina George and your 8th grade gym teacher had a baby?

She LOVES to show up when you’re already feeling vulnerable.

“Really? You slept in again?”

“Maybe if you meditated more, you wouldn’t feel like a hot mess.”

“Oh look, someone’s behind on their goals. What a shock.”

Yeah… her.

Let me tell you something, sis — that voice? She’s not the truth. She’s trauma in a tracksuit. And she’s way louder than she deserves to be.

Self-compassion is the voice that gently steps in and says, “Hey… maybe we don’t have to bully ourselves into becoming better people. Maybe we get to grow through love instead of shame.”

Mic. Drop.

[Section 3: Shame is Not a Motivational Tool]

Somewhere along the way, we got sold this idea that beating ourselves up is productive.

Like if we just hate ourselves enough, we’ll magically transform into this shiny, perfect version of us who never makes mistakes and always drinks enough water.

Spoiler alert: That’s not how this works. That’s not how any of this works.

Shame is not a life coach.

Guilt is not a strategy.

And burnout is not a badge of honor.

You don’t need to punish yourself into alignment. You need to love yourself into healing.

When you mess up — and you will, because hi, you’re human — self-compassion says:

“Hey babe, you’re doing your best. Let’s reflect, learn, and move forward without dragging yourself across the coals.”

It’s giving grace.

It’s giving softness.

It’s giving “main character energy even on your off days.”

[Section 4: Self-Compassion in the Real World — Not Just in Your Journal]

Okay okay, let’s get practical.

What does self-compassion actually look like in real life?

It looks like:

- Saying “no” without explaining your entire life story.

- Choosing rest even when your to-do list is giving you side-eye.

- Forgiving yourself for past choices made from a place of survival.

- Catching your negative self-talk in the moment and saying, “Hold up — would I say that to my best friend?”

Because here’s the thing — you can’t bully yourself into enlightenment. You can’t shame yourself into success. And you can’t hustle your way to wholeness.

Self-compassion is the pause. The breath. The moment you stop trying to “fix” yourself and remember you were never broken to begin with.

It’s the sacred rebellion of choosing kindness over criticism.

It’s spiritual gangster behavior, okay?

[Section 5: The Superpower Part — Why It Changes Everything]

So why is self-compassion a superpower, you ask?

Because when you practice it, you become emotionally resilient as hell.

You bounce back faster.

You stop fearing failure because you know it doesn’t define you.

You take more risks, dream bigger, speak louder — because you’re not afraid of your own judgment anymore.

Self-compassion creates safety inside your own mind.

And let me tell you — when your inner world feels safe, you become unstoppable. You’re not wasting energy doubting, criticizing, or shaming yourself anymore. You’re using that energy to CREATE.

To serve.

To love.

To heal.

To grow.

That’s the power. That’s the magic.

That’s the Spiritual Gangster way.

[Section 6: Amanda’s Self-Compassion Toolkit — Because You Know I Love a Ritual]

Alright, let’s make it tangible. Here’s your Self-Compassion Starter Pack — aka what I reach for when my inner critic tries to hijack the wheel:

1. The Hand-to-Heart Check-In:

   Close your eyes, put your hand on your heart, and say:

   “I’m safe. I’m loved. I’m doing my best.”

2. The Mirror Pep Talk:

   Look yourself dead in the eyes (yes, it’s weird, do it anyway) and say:

   “You’re doing amazing, sweetie.”

3. The Compassionate Reframe:

   Catch a self-critical thought, and flip it.

   “I’m so lazy” becomes “I’m honoring my body’s need for rest today.”

4. Voice Note to Self:

   Record a message to yourself like you would to your best friend on a hard day.

   Then play it back when you need it. Bonus points for dramatic music in the background.

5. The Post-Screwup Hug:

   When you mess up? Don’t spiral. Just say: “Okay. That happened. What’s the kindest thing I can do for myself right now?”

Self-compassion isn’t a one-time thing. It’s a daily practice. A mindset. A lifestyle. And yeah… it’s a whole damn vibe.

[Outro: Love Yo’ Self, Babe]

Alright, gangsters. Let’s wrap it up with this truth:

The world doesn’t need more perfect people.

It needs more compassionate ones.

You being gentle with yourself isn’t weak — it’s revolutionary.

You giving yourself grace isn’t an excuse — it’s empowerment.

You choosing love over judgment? That’s some high-frequency, divine energy right there.

So the next time your inner critic starts talking sh*t, just smile and say,

“Thanks for your input… but I’m choosing self-compassion today.”

You’ve got this. You’re worthy. And you’re so much more than your productivity or your past.

Thanks for hanging out with me today, you magical masterpiece. If this episode gave you life, send it to your favorite overachiever, leave a review, and tag me @amandapieraldi so I can remind you how amazing you are.

Until next time — stay soft, stay sassy, and remember:

Self-compassion is your superpower.

[Outro Music fades out]

 

 

 

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April 11, 2025

Episode 8: Letting Go of Control and Trusting the Process

[Intro Music]

Amanda (cheerful and cheeky):

Helloooo, my beautiful, magical, slightly control-freaky Spiritual Gangsters! Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the place where we keep it real, raw, and ridiculously soulful. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi — professional overthinker turned surrendered goddess. And today… we’re diving deep into a topic that I *know* is going to hit some nerves — letting go of control and trusting the process.

Yup. I said it.

Letting. Go. Of. Control.

*Cue the collective gasp.*

Look, I know this is the episode some of you have been pretending not to need… but your higher self made you click play anyway. You’re welcome.

So grab your oat milk latte, pull your crystals a little closer, and let’s get into this cosmic rollercoaster we call life — and why you don’t always need to be the one driving the damn cart.

[Section 1: Control Freaks Anonymous]

Let’s just start with a confession, shall we?

Hi, my name’s Amanda, and I used to be a control freak.

(Okay fine — still am. Recovering. Progress, not perfection, people.)

Like seriously, if I could’ve micromanaged the Universe, I would’ve.

"Hey Universe, I need that manifestation by Tuesday at 3 p.m., and while you’re at it, could you wrap it in lavender-scented gratitude and maybe throw in a discount code?"

*Spoiler alert:* The Universe doesn’t take special requests like DoorDash, babe. It’s not Amazon Prime. Sometimes, your order is on backorder… and sometimes, it’s like, “Yeah no, that’s not actually for you.”

But control feels *safe*, right? It gives us that sweet, sweet illusion that we’re running the show. Like if we plan enough, organize enough, obsess enough, we can protect ourselves from chaos.

But here’s the thing — control is often just fear in heels.

She looks cute, but she’s insecure. She’s scared things won’t go her way, so she tries to *force* them.

Sound familiar?

[Section 2: The Myth of the Plan]

So let’s talk about *the plan* — you know, the one we all made in our heads at 15?

By 25, I’ll be married.

By 28, I’ll have two kids.

By 30, I’ll have a lakeside cottage, a six-figure career, a hot partner who makes green smoothies and remembers my mom’s birthday.

*L-O-L.*

Meanwhile, the Universe was like, “That’s cute, babe. But I’ve got something *way* better — and it starts with a breakdown and ends with a breakthrough.”

Here’s what I’ve learned — and I say this with all the sass and love in my little cosmic heart — the more you try to white-knuckle your way through life, the more exhausted and disconnected you feel.

Because you weren’t meant to *grip*, you were meant to *flow*.

And guess what? Flow doesn’t mean sitting on your butt waiting for miracles to fall from the sky — it means doing your part, staying in alignment, and then releasing your attachment to how it all unfolds.

The how is *not* your job.

That’s God’s job. Or the Universe. Or Beyoncé. Whoever you believe is running this cosmic circus.

[Section 3: Surrender ≠ Giving Up]

Now, let’s make one thing real clear before some of you start spiraling…

Letting go of control doesn’t mean giving up.

It’s not like, “Welp, I guess I’ll just sit in my bathrobe eating Oreos and hope for enlightenment.”

No ma’am.

Surrender is *active trust*. It’s choosing — moment by moment — to believe that things are unfolding for your highest good, even when it feels like a dumpster fire.

It’s saying, “I don’t know how this is going to work out… but I know I’m being guided.”

It’s choosing peace over panic.

Faith over fear.

Vibes over spreadsheets.

Okay maybe not always — I still love a good spreadsheet. But you get the point.

When you surrender, you stop trying to force what’s not flowing. You stop begging for crumbs from the wrong people. You stop exhausting yourself with “what ifs” and “should haves.”

And you finally — *finally* — create space for magic to move in.

[Section 4: Real Talk – Trust is a Practice]

Okay, now let’s get real. Like, really real.

Trusting the process sounds super cute on an Instagram quote, right?

“Trust the timing of your life.”

*Insert sunset background and feather graphics.*

But in real life? It’s messy. It’s scary. It’s like walking blindfolded through a haunted house while trying not to scream.

Trust is a *practice*. It’s not a light switch — it’s a muscle. And baby, if your trust muscle is out of shape, that’s okay. We’re all out here in the spiritual gym doing squats with our shadow selves.

You build trust by collecting evidence — little moments where things worked out *even better* than you planned. Times you thought it was all falling apart, but it was really just falling *into place*.

So look for those moments. Celebrate them. Keep a “miracle list” if you have to. Because trust grows when you start to realize that maybe, just *maybe*, the Universe actually knows what it’s doing.

And maybe you’re not behind.

Maybe you’re not lost.

Maybe… you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

[Section 5: Letting Go Rituals – Because We're Dramatic and We Love a Ceremony]

Alright, you know I can’t leave you hanging without some tools — and also, I’m extra, so yes, we’re doing a *letting go ritual.*

Here’s my fave:

1. Grab a piece of paper and write down all the things you’re gripping too tightly — the plans, the timelines, the people, the fears.

2. Light a candle (safely, please — don’t burn your house down).

3. Read it out loud and say:

“I release the illusion of control. I trust that what is meant for me will never miss me.”

4. Burn it. Shred it. Bury it under a rose quartz. I don’t care. Just *let it go*.

Bonus points if you play “Let It Go” from Frozen and cry in the bathtub. That’s peak spiritual gangster energy.

[Outro: Flow State Activated]

So, to all my fellow recovering control freaks out there — I see you. I love you. I *am* you.

But the truth is, the more you try to control life, the more you block the blessings trying to reach you. The Universe isn’t asking you to know it all — it’s asking you to trust.

To trust yourself.

To trust the process.

To trust that maybe, just maybe… there’s a divine plan, and your only job is to *get in alignment and stay open.*

So take a breath. unclench your jaw. unclench your butt. unclench your soul.

*It’s safe to let go.*

Thanks for vibing with me today. If you loved this episode, please leave a review, share it with your favorite control freak bestie, and tag me on Instagram @amandapieraldi so I can love you up!

Until next time… stay wild, stay woo-woo, and surrender, baby — because your destiny’s got better taste than your ego.

[Outro Music fades out]

 

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April 8, 2025

Spiritual Gangster Podcast – Episode 7 - The Energetics of Confidence

 

[Intro Music Playing – upbeat, grounding, soulful tone]

Amanda (Host voice):

Hey hey, beautiful souls — welcome back to the Spiritual Gangster Podcast, a vibe-driven space for the soulful and strong. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and I’m so damn glad you’re here.

Whether you're tuning in from your cozy couch, your morning commute, or mid-sweat on the treadmill — today’s episode is gonna light something up inside you. Promise.

This is your weekly reminder to protect your energy, trust your intuition, and walk through life fully embodied in your truth — unapologetically.

And today… ooooh, we’re talking about a vibe that changes the entire game — Confidence. But not just any confidence — we’re getting into The Energetics of Confidence.

So grab your tea, your journal, or just bring your full self to this conversation — because it’s about to get juicy.

Let’s talk about it.

Confidence isn’t just about walking into a room like you own it (although yes, please do that too). It’s not just about wearing the bold lipstick or crushing a presentation or nailing a selfie with bomb lighting.

Confidence is an energy. It’s a frequency. It’s the way your soul says, “I belong here — and I don’t need permission.”

It’s not about being the loudest person in the room. It’s not about never feeling self-doubt. It’s about owning your energy — even when your knees are shaking and your inner critic is running her mouth.

Real confidence says:

“I’m not perfect, but I’m powerful.”

“I’ve got insecurities, but I show up anyway.”

“I may not know all the answers, but I trust myself enough to figure it out.”

That’s the energetic shift.

Now let me be real with you for a sec.

There was a time I thought confidence came from achieving things. You know — get the job, get the body, get the relationship, get the approval.

But the more I stacked external wins, the more I realized — none of it made me feel truly confident. I still questioned myself. I still looked for validation. I still didn’t feel grounded in my own power.

Because confidence isn’t built externally — it’s cultivated internally.

It’s not a result of perfection — it’s a result of self-trust.

It’s the byproduct of keeping promises to yourself.

It’s what happens when you decide to be the main character in your own life — not the background support for everyone else’s story.

Let’s get into the energetics of it all.

Everything is energy — your thoughts, your posture, your tone, your presence. Confidence is less about what you do and more about the energy behind how you do it.

Think about this:

Two people can say the exact same sentence, but one person says it from a place of nervousness and needing approval, while the other says it with rooted energy — grounded, sure, unfazed.

It’s not the words — it’s the frequency.

When you embody confidence energetically, people feel it before you even speak.

You walk in the room and people turn their heads. Not because of your outfit — but because of your presence.

And that presence is created by your inner alignment. Your belief in your worth. Your decision to no longer abandon yourself for the comfort of others.

So how do you cultivate that energy? Let me break it down.

1. Mindset shifts.

Confidence begins with how you speak to yourself. Stop waiting until you “feel” confident — start thinking like someone who already is. Your mind is listening to every word you say. So speak life into yourself, babe. Loudly.

2. Body language matters.

Shoulders back. Head high. Eye contact. Deep breath. Move like you belong, even before your brain catches up. Embodied energy shifts everything.

3. Keep your promises.

The fastest way to build self-trust is to do what you said you would do — even when it’s hard, even when no one is watching. Every time you follow through, your energy says, “I’ve got me.”

4. Stop outsourcing your worth.

Confidence isn’t “they like me.” It’s “I like me — whether they do or not.” The second you stop making your value dependent on other people’s opinions? You get your power back.

5. Take messy action.

Confidence doesn’t come from thinking about doing the thing — it comes from actually doing it, imperfectly. Action breeds clarity. Progress builds belief. Get out of your head and into your life.

Let’s normalize this too:

You can be confident and still have moments of doubt.

You can feel like a badass one minute and question everything the next.

Confidence is not a permanent state — it’s a practice. A decision. A way of being you keep choosing again and again.

And on the days when it’s hard to choose it? That’s okay too.

Sometimes confidence looks like taking the stage.

Other times it looks like getting out of bed and brushing your damn hair.

It’s all valid. It’s all powerful. It’s all part of the energy you’re building.

Here’s your reminder for the week:

Confidence doesn’t come from being perfect.

Confidence comes from being present.

From being in your body, in your truth, in your worth — even when life feels messy and uncertain.

So this week, I want you to tap into the energetics of it.

Not the surface-level “look confident,” but the deep soul-rooted embodiment of “I know who I am, and I’m not dimming that.”

Repeat after me:

“I trust myself. I back myself. I choose me — every damn day.”

Feel it in your body. Anchor it into your energy. Then go out and move like the powerhouse you are.

[Closing – Familiar Tone]

Alright, my spiritual gangsters — that’s what I’ve got for you today.

If this episode lit something up inside you, share it with a friend who needs that energetic confidence boost too.

And make sure to hit follow so you don’t miss next week’s episode — because the vibes just keep getting better. New episodes drop every Friday, all the way through December.

Until next time — keep walking in your truth, standing in your power, and showing up like the spiritual badass you are.

You’ve got this. You’ve always had this.

Talk to you next week!

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March 28, 2025

Episode 6: Embracing Authenticity Over Approval

 

 

[Intro Music Playing – upbeat, grounding, soulful tone]

Amanda (Host voice):

Hey hey, welcome back to the Spiritual Gangster Podcast — a vibe-driven space for the soulful and strong. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and I am so pumped you’re here today.

Whether you’re listening while sipping your coffee, driving your car, walking your dog, or hiding in your bathroom from your kids — no judgment — this episode is gonna be one you’ll want to soak in.

This podcast is your weekly permission slip to protect your peace, trust your intuition, and own your story — unapologetically. And today, we’re diving into a topic that I know hits home for so many of us — embracing authenticity over approval.

So, let’s get into it.

[Main Content Starts]

Let me just say this upfront — being authentic in a world that profits off your self-doubt is a damn rebellious act.

Seriously.

We’ve been conditioned from day one to perform.

To please.

To package ourselves in palatable little boxes that make everyone else feel comfortable… even if we’re wildly uncomfortable in the process.

And for what? Approval? Validation? Gold stars that don’t mean a damn thing when your head hits the pillow at night?

Yeah… been there, done that, burnt the t-shirt.

Let’s talk about it.

Because I don’t know about you, but I spent way too many years trying to shrink myself to fit into rooms I didn’t even want to be in. Saying “yes” when I meant “hell no.” Dimming my light so someone else could feel brighter.

It’s exhausting.

And it’s not living — it’s surviving on autopilot.

But here’s the truth, babe:

Approval is addictive, but authenticity is liberating.

And choosing authenticity — real, raw, unapologetic you — that’s where the magic lives.

Let’s break this down for a sec.

Approval-seeking is sneaky.

It can look like…

• Posting that “perfect” curated photo on social media even though your life feels like a dumpster fire behind the scenes.

• Agreeing with everyone in the room just to avoid conflict — even when your gut is screaming otherwise.

• Saying “yes” to plans you have zero desire to go to — just so no one thinks you’re rude.

• Putting on the “good girl” mask, the “chill girl” mask, the “perfect mom” mask — instead of showing up messy, flawed, and human.

But listen to me: You were not put on this Earth to be universally liked. You were put here to be radically real.

And yeah, being real might ruffle some feathers.

It might disappoint people.

It might make others uncomfortable.

But you know what’s worse than being misunderstood?

Being inauthentic.

Living a life that doesn’t belong to you.

You are not here to play dress-up in someone else’s version of acceptable. You are here to take up space — fully, boldly, beautifully.

I know it’s not always easy.

Because when you start showing up as your whole self — especially if you’ve been a lifelong people-pleaser — it feels like a whole-ass identity crisis at first.

You start asking:

“What if they don’t like the real me?”

“What if I lose relationships?”

“What if I’m too much?”

But what if… you’re not too much — you’re just finally being enough for yourself?

And if people walk away when you stop performing for their approval? Let them.

Your authenticity will never scare away the right people — only the ones who were benefiting from your pretending.

Let me repeat that for the ones in the back: Your authenticity will never scare away the right people.

Here’s what embracing authenticity actually looks like:

• Saying “no” without explaining your entire life story.

• Taking the damn photo without sucking in your stomach or over-filtering.

• Speaking your truth even if your voice shakes.

• Wearing the outfit that makes you feel good — not what’s “on trend.”

• Following what lights you up instead of what looks good on paper.

It’s about coming home to yourself.

Unlearning the scripts.

Unplugging from the hustle-for-worthiness culture.

It’s about realizing you don’t need a permission slip to be who you already are.

Because the truth is — authenticity is magnetic.

When you stop performing and start embodying, you give everyone else around you permission to do the same.

You become a lighthouse. A vibe. A whole frequency shift.

And let’s be real — no one’s inspired by perfection.

We’re inspired by truth, by courage, by stories, by realness.

That’s what connects us. That’s what heals us.

Let me tell you a little story.

There was a time in my life when I was checking every “approval” box on the damn list.

Marriage? Check.

Solid job? Check.

Smile on my face while I was crumbling inside? Big fat check.

But underneath that facade, I was empty. Disconnected. Lost.

It wasn’t until I started peeling back the layers — the “shoulds,” the masks, the fear of judgment — that I found peace.

Not the kind of peace that comes from things looking good on the outside, but the kind that sits in your bones. The kind that whispers, "this is who I am, and it’s more than enough.”

That’s the kind of peace I want for you.

Not performative. Not polished. But real.

So here’s your invitation this week:

Start paying attention to where you’re shrinking, silencing, or shape-shifting.

Ask yourself — Is this really me? Or is this a version of me I created to be accepted?

And then — choose yourself.

Even if it’s scary. Even if you lose people. Even if not everyone gets it.

Because what you gain in return — your voice, your truth, your peace — is worth more than anyone’s approval.

[Closing Section – Familiar Tone]

Alright, my spiritual gangsters — that’s what I’ve got for you today.

If this episode hit home for you, share it with a friend who needs a little reminder that they don’t need to earn their worth — they already are enough, exactly as they are.

And hey — if you haven’t already, hit that follow button so you don’t miss an episode. We drop new ones every Friday, all the way through December — and trust me, the vibes are only getting stronger.

Until next time — keep showing up real, raw, and unapologetically YOU.

You don’t need anyone’s approval to be powerful.

You already are.

Talk to you next week!

[Outro music fades in]

 

 

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March 21, 2025

Spiritual Gangster Podcast – Episode 5

"Radical Rest and Sacred Stillness — The Soulful Reboot You Didn’t Know You Needed"

Intro Music Fades In

Hey hey, welcome back to the Spiritual Gangster Podcast — a vibe-driven space for the soulful and strong. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today, oh honey, we’re diving into something that most people treat like a luxury item instead of the damn necessity it actually is: *Rest.* Yeah, that thing you keep putting at the bottom of your to-do list like it’s optional. Spoiler alert — it’s not.

Today’s episode is called Radical Rest and Sacred Stillness — and let me tell you, this isn’t just about curling up in your favourite blanket (although yes, I highly encourage that). We’re talking about reclaiming your peace like your life depends on it — because honestly? It does.

And listen — before we dive in, wherever you are — maybe you're driving, power walking through your neighborhood pretending you're in a music video, or folding that mountain of laundry (again) — just take a breath with me.

Inhale deeply… Exhale slowly… Feel your shoulders drop and your jaw unclench. Let yourself land right here, in this moment. Because that right there — that presence — is exactly what we’re exploring today.

Segment 1: Rest Isn’t a Reward — It’s Your Birthright

We’ve been raised in a culture that practically worships burnout. Hustle harder. Sleep when you’re dead. Grind ‘til you shine — yeah okay, but at what cost? Chronic fatigue? Emotional whiplash? Existential dread? Cute.

We’re out here bragging about being exhausted like it’s a flex. But you know what’s actually revolutionary? Saying “No thanks, I’m gonna take a nap instead.” Radical, right?

Rest isn’t lazy. It’s holy. It’s essential. And somewhere along the way, we got bamboozled into thinking we have to *earn it*. Like we need to prove our worthiness through overextension and overachievement.

But guess what? You don’t need to perform exhaustion to be valuable. You don’t need to burn out to prove you’re working hard enough. You don’t need to be available 24/7 to be worthy of love or success.

Segment 2: Stillness Isn’t Emptiness — It’s Sacred Ground

Let’s flip the script here: stillness is not emptiness. It’s not this void you fall into. It’s actually the most potent space you can exist in. Stillness is where your soul recalibrates, where your creativity whispers, where your clarity rises like steam from a mug of tea you finally sat down long enough to drink.

In stillness, you remember who the hell you are. Beneath the titles, the to-do lists, the noise — you’re still you. Not a productivity machine. Not someone else’s expectation checklist. You’re a whole, divine being — and that sacred pause is where your essence breathes.

And listen, I get it — stillness can feel awkward at first. You sit down and your brain is like “Let’s overthink everything since we’re not doing anything else!” But the more you practice it, the more it becomes a safe home instead of a scary void.

Segment 3: Nervous System Nourishment is a Love Language

Your nervous system is not designed to be in survival mode all the damn time. Constant hustle keeps your body in fight, flight, freeze or fawn — and eventually, you crash. Not because you’re weak, but because your body is smart and it’s literally screaming for you to *chill the hell out*.

Radical rest is nervous system nourishment. It’s choosing softness when your body is bracing. It’s allowing silence in a world screaming for your attention. It’s saying “I’m not doing a damn thing right now — and that’s enough.”

You want to heal? Start by resting. You want clarity? Sit in stillness. You want to stop feeling like an over-caffeinated hamster on a broken wheel? You guessed it — pause, my friend. Pause on purpose.

Segment 4: My Own Resistance to Rest — And What Shifted

Let me be real with you — I used to suck at rest. Like, truly. I thought if I wasn’t constantly *doing*, then I was falling behind. I thought rest was for people who had already “made it” — whatever that means.

But life has a way of sitting your ass down when you won’t do it willingly. Grief, burnout, health scares — they became my teachers. And through them, I learned that rest isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. It’s strength in surrender. It’s courage in choosing softness in a world that rewards sharp edges.

And now? I rest *radically*. I rest with intention, not guilt. I rest because I love myself — not because I’m allowed to. And every time I do, I come home to myself just a little more.

Segment 5: Soulful Practices for Sacred Stillness

Let’s talk tangible ways to reclaim radical rest — and no, it’s not just bubble baths and binge-watching (though hey, those can be sacred too).

Here are a few soulful practices to anchor your rest:

1. **Unplug the Noise** – Take a tech timeout. Silence the pings, the dings, and the dopamine traps. The world won’t implode — I promise.

2. **Breathe on Purpose** – Breathwork is powerful. Try a few slow, conscious breaths and see how your energy shifts.

3. **Sabbath Moments** – Even if you don’t subscribe to any religious practice, a sacred pause weekly — a few hours of true stillness — can recalibrate your soul.

4. **Rest Rituals** – Whether it’s lighting a candle, drinking tea slowly, journaling under a blanket — ritualize your rest so it becomes sacred, not optional.

5. **Say No Without Apologizing** – Boundaries are restful. Period.

Segment 6: Soul Check-In — Reflect With Me

Take a moment and ask yourself:

- Where in my life am I resisting rest — and why?

- What story have I been told about rest being lazy or indulgent?

- What does rest look like for me — truly?

- How can I create more sacred stillness in my daily rhythm?

- Who benefits when I burn out… and who benefits when I rest?

Final Thoughts — Your Rest is Revolutionary

You are not behind. You’re not lazy. You’re a soul navigating a loud-ass world — and choosing stillness is spiritual defiance.

Rest isn’t quitting. It’s *remembering*. It’s reclaiming your center. It’s holy, it’s healing, and it’s your birthright.

So go take your nap.. Unapologetically choose your peace.

Your soul will thank you.

Thanks for vibing with me today. Stay soulful, stay strong — and never forget the power of your sacred pause.