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May 23, 2025

Episode 14: Aligning with Your Higher Self

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Amanda (host):

“Hey, hey, beautiful souls!

Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the space where realness meets radiance and where we don’t just level up, we LIGHT UP.

I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today we’re talking about something that will shift your whole life if you let it:

Aligning with your Higher Self.

Because let’s be honest — you didn’t come here just to pay bills, check boxes, and stay small.

You came here to embody your divine magic.

You came here to walk like the queen you are.

Today, we’re going deep, getting real, and of course — sprinkling some sass along the way.

Grab your coffee, your crystals, or your car keys — whatever you’re vibing with — and let’s go.”

(Section 1: Who is Your Higher Self Anyway?)

“Let’s break it down.

Your Higher Self is NOT some distant, perfect version of you living in a mansion with perfect hair.

Your Higher Self is you, minus the fear.

Minus the doubt.

Minus the conditioning that told you who you ‘should’ be.

Your Higher Self is pure you.

Radiant you.

Unstoppable, unbothered, wildly authentic YOU.

It’s the you who already knows the way.

The you who doesn’t beg for validation because she’s busy being the damn validation.

Aligning with your Higher Self isn’t about becoming someone else — it’s about remembering who you’ve always been.”

(Section 2: Signs You’re Out of Alignment)

“Let’s get spicy — you know I’m not here to let you stay stuck.

Signs you’re NOT vibing with your Higher Self:

• You’re constantly second-guessing yourself.

• You’re over-explaining your worth to people who don’t even deserve a front-row seat.

• You’re hustling, forcing, controlling outcomes instead of trusting.

• You feel disconnected, drained, disillusioned.

Babe, if you’re living in survival mode, it’s time to tap OUT of that and tap BACK into your soul power.

Because you don’t thrive from a place of fear — you thrive from a place of faith.”

(Section 3: Why Alignment is the Ultimate Glow Up)

“Forget the outer glow-up for a second. (Though yes, queen, slay that too.)

The ultimate flex is energetic alignment.

When you’re vibing with your Higher Self, you walk different.

You talk different.

You move through the world with an energy that says:

‘I know who TF I am.’

You stop chasing.

You start attracting.

You stop begging.

You start embodying.

People FEEL it before you even say a word.”

(Section 4: How to Align with Your Higher Self — For Real)

“Okay, you’re like, ‘Amanda, girl, I’m ready — HOW though?!’

Let’s get practical and powerful:

1. Tune Into Your Inner Wisdom

Every day, spend a few minutes tuning in.

Ask yourself: What would my Higher Self choose today?

Spoiler alert: She would choose love, courage, trust, joy — not fear.

2. Embody Before You See

You don’t wait to feel confident until you land the dream job.

You embody confidence now.

You move like the opportunity is already yours.

Because it is.

3. Release What’s Not Aligned

Whew — this one’s spicy.

If it doesn’t match your Higher Self — the toxic friendship, the dead-end job, the outdated self-talk — it’s gotta go.

Clear the clutter. Make room for miracles.

4. Speak the Language of Your Higher Self

Your words are spells.

Speak life over yourself.

Speak victory.

Speak like the damn Queen that you are.

5. Take Aligned Action

Dreams without action are just cute Pinterest boards.

Move. Leap. Say yes. Say no. Trust the nudge and follow the pull.”

(Section 5: Your Higher Self Isn’t ‘Perfect’)

“Hot tea for the soul:

Your Higher Self isn’t some perfect, untouchable goddess who never cries, never doubts, never struggles.

She’s raw.

She’s real.

She feels everything — and still chooses faith over fear.

Alignment isn’t about perfection.

It’s about devotion.

Devotion to your growth.

Devotion to your light.

Devotion to your joy.”

(Section 6: Daily Rituals to Stay Aligned)

“Want to keep that Higher Self energy flowing? Here are a few daily rituals:

• Morning Alignment: Before you scroll, connect. Breathe. Set an intention.

• Mirror Work: Look in the mirror and affirm who you are becoming. Out loud. Every day.

• Sacred Movement: Move your body intuitively — dance, stretch, walk like the divine being you are.

• Gratitude Blitz: Flood your system with gratitude. Gratitude raises your frequency instantly.

• Nightly Check-In: Reflect: Where was I aligned today? Where can I soften tomorrow?

It’s not about perfection — it’s about presence.”

(Section 7: Final Love Bomb)

“So here’s the mic-drop moment, babe:

Your Higher Self isn’t out there somewhere.

She’s in you.

Right now.

Waiting for you to say yes.

Say yes to the version of you that doesn’t settle.

Say yes to the version of you that doesn’t shrink.

Say yes to the version of you that shines unapologetically.

Because when you align with her — when you become her — you change your life.

You change the room you walk into.

You change the world.

The glow-up you’re craving?

It’s an inside job, baby.

And trust me — you’re already more powerful than you know.”

Amanda (host):

“Alright, my radiant, unstoppable souls — that’s a wrap for today’s episode!

If this hit you right in your spirit (and I know it did), share it on Instagram, tag me @spiritualgangsterpod, and tell your Higher Self I said, ‘Hey, gorgeous.’

Until next time:

Stay aligned. Stay divine. And keep living like a Spiritual Gangster.”

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May 16, 2025

Episode 13: The Power of Presence

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Amanda (host):

“Hey, hey, beautiful souls!

Welcome back to another episode of The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — where we blend real talk with soul medicine and keep it all just a little bit sassy.

I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today we’re diving into something that is both so simple and so revolutionary:

The Power of Presence.

Like seriously — presence is the real flex.

Forget chasing, grinding, and overthinking your way into a better life — the real magic is right here, right now.

So whether you’re multitasking or mindlessly scrolling while you listen — yes, I see you — today’s mission is to call your sweet soul back home to this moment.

Ready? Let’s vibe.”

(Section 1: Why Presence is the New Power Move)

“First things first — being PRESENT is not some airy-fairy, yogi-on-a-mountain-in-Tibet type of thing.

Presence is a straight-up POWER move.

When you are fully here — not in your regrets about the past or your anxiety about the future — you become magnetic.

You become unshakable.

You become a whole force of nature.

Because when you’re present, you’re no longer leaking your energy into a million fake realities.

You’re anchored.

You’re alive.

You’re powerful AF.

And babe, the world FEELS that energy.

The Universe feels it too.”

(Section 2: How We’re Addicted to the ‘Next Thing’)

“Let’s get real — most of us are low-key addicted to the ‘next thing.’

Next notification.

Next goal.

Next text.

Next crisis.

We live in a culture that glorifies hustle, busy-ness, and constant upgrading.

And don’t get me wrong — ambition is sexy.

I love a good glow-up moment.

BUT — if you’re always living for the next thing, you’re never actually living.

You’re just running on a hamster wheel, looking fabulous but exhausted.

(Ever been there? Ohhh, same.)

Presence is about stepping off the wheel and realizing:

This moment is enough. I am enough. Right here, right now.

No achievement required. No filter needed.”

 

(Section 3: Presence is the Portal to Peace)

“Here’s the real magic:

When you anchor into presence, you open the portal to true peace.

Not fake peace.

Not ‘I’m fine’ peace.

Not ‘let me light a candle and pretend I’m zen’ peace.

I’m talking about a deep, embodied sense of ‘I’m okay. I’m safe. I’m here.’

When you’re fully present, even if life is messy — you realize you can handle it.

Because you’re not carrying all the made-up catastrophes from your mind.

You’re only carrying what’s real right now.

And usually, what’s real right now?

It’s manageable. It’s breathe-able. It’s doable.”

(Section 4: Why Presence is Sexy AF)

“Let’s just say it:

Presence is sexy.

Have you ever been around someone who is actually there with you?

Not on their phone.

Not halfway out the door.

Not just nodding while thinking about their grocery list.

Someone who is really locked in, eyes sparkling, energy open?

It’s magnetic. It’s intoxicating.

And YOU can be that person.

You can walk into a room and shift the whole vibe simply by being the most present person there.

Not because you’re trying to prove anything — but because your energy is undeniable.”

(Section 5: How to Practice Presence in a World Built for Distraction)

“Alright, let’s talk about the HOW — because saying ‘be present’ without giving you tools is like handing you a smoothie with no straw.

Here’s how to actually live it:

1. Micro-Moments of Presence

You don’t need to meditate for 4 hours a day.

(Unless you want to, then pop off, queen.)

Start by creating tiny portals of presence.

 

When you’re drinking your coffee — taste it.

When you’re showering — feel the water.

When you’re talking to someone — actually listen.

 

2. Breath as an Anchor

Your breath is a portable anchor to now.

Whenever you feel scattered, take three deep, conscious breaths.

Boom. You’re back.

 

3. Single-Task Like a Rebel

Multi-tasking is a scam.

It makes you less efficient and way more stressed.

Be a rebel. Do one thing at a time. And do it fully.

 

4. Tech Boundaries

Ooh, this one’s spicy.

Your phone is designed to steal your presence.

Set boundaries. Turn off unnecessary notifications. Take tech breaks.

Your peace > someone else’s urgency.

 

5. Presence in Emotions

And here’s a power move most people skip:

When you feel an emotion — be present with it.

Don’t shove it down. Don’t run from it.

Feel it fully. Let it move through you.

Presence is healing.”

 

(Section 6: Presence is a Superpower You Already Have)

“You don’t have to become present.

You already ARE presence.

Presence is your natural state, underneath all the noise.

You don’t have to earn it. You just have to remember it.

And every time you choose presence — even for 30 seconds — you’re reclaiming your power.

You’re reclaiming your peace.

You’re reclaiming your magic.

Presence says:

‘I trust life. I trust myself. I trust this moment.’

And that trust?

That’s where miracles happen.”

 

(Section 7: Final Mic Drop Moment)

“So here’s your reminder today:

You are not behind.

You are not late.

You are not missing anything.

Life is happening RIGHT NOW.

Not someday. Not when you get ‘there.’

Right here. Right now.

This moment — messy, beautiful, sacred — is your life.

So savor it.

Taste it.

Touch it.

Breathe it.

Bless it.

Because babe — presence is the real glow up.”

(beat)

“Alright, my gorgeous gangsters of the soul — that’s what I’ve got for you today!

If this episode brought you back to yourself, share it on Instagram, tag me @spiritualgangsterpod, and let’s spread the gospel of presence far and wide.

Until next time: Stay present. Stay powerful. And keep living like a Spiritual Gangster!”

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May 9, 2025

Episode 12: Gratitude as a Daily Ritual

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Amanda (host):

“Hello, my beautiful, badass Spiritual Gangsters!

Welcome back to another juicy episode of The Spiritual Gangster Podcast, where we spill the spiritual tea and remind you that your power is already within you. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today, honey, we’re talking about a game-changer: Gratitude as a Daily Ritual.

Now listen — I know gratitude gets thrown around like confetti these days.

‘Be grateful.’

‘Have a gratitude journal.’

‘Count your blessings.’

Yeah, yeah, yeah — but let’s be real: Most people treat gratitude like that awkward holiday guest you only acknowledge once a year at Thanksgiving. NOT TODAY, SATAN. Not in this space!

We are about to make gratitude your DAILY, sexy, soul-filling ritual. A ritual that’ll leave you feeling unstoppable, magnetic, and dripping in abundance.

Let’s dive in!”

What Gratitude Really Is — And What It’s Not

First off, let’s get something straight.

Gratitude is not pretending everything is perfect. It’s not about slapping a fake smile on your face when your life feels like a dumpster fire. We don’t do toxic positivity around here, boo. Gratitude is about acknowledging what is good, even when everything else feels messy.

It’s choosing — on purpose — to shift your focus from what’s lacking to what’s thriving.

It’s saying, ‘Hey, life’s a little chaotic right now, but look at these amazing people, these small wins, these moments of magic that still exist.’

And guess what? Gratitude doesn’t mean you stop striving for more. It just means you stop bulldozing over your blessings while you’re on your way to the next thing.

(Yeah, I’m side-eyeing you, fellow overachiever.)

Why Gratitude Daily Changes the Damn Game

You know those mornings when you wake up and everything feels… heavy? Like the world sat on your chest overnight?

That’s exactly when gratitude steps in like your fiercest hype girl.

When you make gratitude a daily ritual — not just a ‘when I remember’ kind of thing — you rewire your beautiful brain. Like, scientifically. Your mind starts searching for the good automatically. Your energy rises. Your vibration lifts. And the Universe? Oh baby, it notices. It says, ‘Ohhh, she’s vibin’ high — let’s send her more good stuff!’

Practicing daily gratitude:

Reduces anxiety and depression

Boosts your immune system

Improves your relationships (because you’re less of a cranky gremlin)

Makes you more magnetic to opportunities, abundance, and love

Basically, gratitude is like that secret serum in video games that gives you superpowers — except it’s real life.

How to Actually Make Gratitude a Ritual (Not a Chore)

Alright, let’s get practical. How do you weave gratitude into your daily life without it feeling like another boring task on your to-do list?

1. The 3-Minute Morning Ritual

Before you check your phone. Before you scroll Instagram. Before your mind even remembers it’s supposed to be stressed about emails — sit up in bed, take a breath, and think of three things you’re grateful for.

Doesn’t have to be deep, darling.

Could be your cozy sheets. Your dog’s snoring. The fact that coffee exists.

Simple = powerful.

2. Gratitude Walks

Take your booty outside and go for a 5-minute walk. As you walk, mentally list everything you’re grateful for — your legs for carrying you, the fresh air, the neighbor’s flowers you didn’t have to plant but get to enjoy. Watch how your energy shifts by the time you circle the block.

3. Write a Gratitude Love Letter

Pick one person every week and write a mini love letter (or text, or voice note) telling them what you appreciate about them. Trust me, you’ll make their day — and you’ll feel like a ball of sunshine yourself.

4. End-of-Day Power Down

At night, instead of scrolling yourself into an anxiety spiral (I see you), write down five things you’re grateful for that happened that day. Even on the trash days. ESPECIALLY on the trash days.

The "Yeah, But What If My Life is a Hot Mess?” Moment

Okay, real talk.

What about the days when gratitude feels impossible? When life feels like it sucker-punched you, stole your wallet, and then kicked you while you were down?

Here’s the truth bomb:

Gratitude isn’t always easy.

But it’s most powerful when it’s hardest.

Even if the only thing you can find gratitude for is having breath in your lungs, that counts.

Even if it’s just being thankful for hot showers or a meme that made you laugh when you wanted to cry — THAT COUNTS.

The magic isn’t in pretending everything’s perfect. The magic is in choosing to find the light when you’re surrounded by shadows.

And THAT, my loves, is when you truly become unstoppable.

Bonus Sass: Gratitude is a Magnet, Not a Manipulator

One quick thing before we move forward — because I know someone’s thinking it.

Gratitude isn’t a tool you use to ‘manifest faster’ by forcing yourself to be happy.

It’s not spiritual manipulation.

It’s an authentic expression of appreciation — no strings attached.

When you’re genuinely grateful, you become a vibrational match for more good things naturally.

Not because you twisted the Universe’s arm, but because your energy is aligned, expansive, and irresistible.

Real recognize real, babe.

The Universe can tell the difference between fake gratitude and the real deal.

The Ripple Effect of Gratitude (Spoiler: You’re Changing the World)

Here’s the secret sauce that most people don’t tell you:

Your gratitude doesn’t just change YOUR life — it sends ripples out into the world.

When you show up grateful:

You treat people better.

You inspire others to find their own blessings.

You create tiny pockets of joy everywhere you go.

You holding gratitude in your heart is a radical, badass act of rebellion against a world that thrives on negativity.

It’s soul activism, baby. And it’s powerful as hell.

Final Thoughts: Gratitude as Your Superpower

So here’s your mission, Spiritual Gangsters:

Make gratitude non-negotiable.

Make it sacred.

Make it sexy.

Let it be the foundation you build your dreams on — because a grateful heart is an abundant heart.

You don’t have to wait until you have everything you want to feel grateful.

You can start right freaking now. With whatever you’ve got.

And THAT energy? It’s pure magic.

I’m so grateful for each and every one of you tuning in, growing, and glowing with me. You are the reason this community is so damn special.

Now go out there and start a gratitude revolution — and trust me, the Universe is already lining up blessings with your name on them.

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May 2, 2025

Episode 11: Healing the Hustle Mentality

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Amanda (host):

"Hey, hey, beautiful souls!

Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the space where we dive deep into real talk, raw energy, and unapologetic growth. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today we’re diving into a topic that is near and dear to my heart. We’re talking about healing that hustle mentality.

You know, the one that tells you to grind and push until your energy’s completely drained. The mentality that says, ‘If you’re not busy, you’re lazy’ — and honey, we all know that’s a lie. We’ve been conditioned to believe that working ourselves into the ground is the only path to success, and I’m here to call bullshit on that.

So grab your favorite cup of tea (or whatever fuel you need) and let’s get into it. Today we’re going to heal that hustle mentality, and trust me, you’ll be feeling lighter by the end of this episode."

 

 

(Section 1: What Is the Hustle Mentality?)

"Let’s start by getting clear on what we mean by hustle mentality. It’s this belief that your value is determined by how much you produce, how much you work, and how busy you are. If you’re not constantly moving and working and ‘doing the thing,’ you start feeling like you’re falling behind.

But where does this hustle mentality come from? Let’s break it down:

For many of us, we’ve been taught to chase success from a very young age. From school projects to job interviews to social media, society loves to measure our worth by our output. And the message is clear: ‘More work equals more worth.’

Here’s the problem with that: When you’re in hustle mode, you’re constantly chasing the next task, the next goal, the next big thing, without ever allowing yourself the time to truly be. We lose sight of who we are in the process, and we start defining ourselves by what we can do for others or how much we’ve accomplished.

So, let me ask you: How often do you pause and ask yourself if what you’re doing actually feels good? How often do you check in with your soul and ask if this hustle is aligned with your higher purpose?

I’m here to remind you: Your worth isn’t tied to your productivity. Period."

(Section 2: The Consequences of the Hustle Mentality)

"Now, let’s talk about the consequences of living in hustle mode. Because, baby, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies when you’re running at full speed all the time.

We’re talking about burnout. Stress. Anxiety. Exhaustion. Mental fog. And worst of all, a constant feeling of being ‘never enough.’

When you’re caught in hustle culture, you end up pushing your body, mind, and spirit to the point of depletion. And eventually, something has to give. Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve worked until I was physically sick, emotionally drained, and spiritually exhausted — all because I was convinced that I wasn’t doing enough. That I wasn’t enough.

But here’s the hard truth: Hustle culture has no finish line. The grind never stops until you decide to stop it.

Some signs you’re living in hustle mentality include:

• Physical exhaustion — You’re always tired. Like, no matter how much sleep you get, it’s never enough.

• Mental burnout — Your creativity dries up. You feel like you’re running on autopilot.

• The constant pressure to do more — You’re always thinking, ‘I should be doing more. I should be achieving more.’

• A disconnect from yourself — You stop enjoying the process and just focus on the end result. You lose sight of what truly brings you joy.

This constant pressure to do more is not only unsustainable, but it’s also unhealthy. And it’s time to heal that."

(Section 3: The Shift — From Hustle to Alignment)

"So, how do we shift out of hustle mode and into alignment? How do we stop doing so much and start being more?

First of all, it’s not about ditching work entirely. We’re not here to be lazy. It’s about shifting from a mindset of constant doing to a mindset of intentional action. It’s about aligning your actions with your true desires, your soul’s purpose, and your deepest values.

Here’s how we start:

1. Redefine Success

You’ve got to let go of the old definition that tells you success is all about hustle. Success is about alignment — aligning with your soul’s purpose, your heart’s desires, and your passion. Success doesn’t need to cost you your health, your peace, or your sanity. Success is flow. Success is ease.

2. Set Boundaries

This one is huge. If you’re saying yes to everything and everyone, you’re saying no to your own energy. And honey, that’s not sustainable. Start setting clear, strong boundaries in your life. Whether it’s work, friends, or family, you’ve got to protect your energy. Boundaries are not selfish; they’re necessary.

3. Embrace Stillness

I know, I know — being still feels impossible when you’ve been running at 100 mph for years. But I promise you, stillness is where the magic happens. You can’t hear your intuition if you’re always in motion. You can’t connect with your Higher Self if you’re constantly chasing the next goal. Give yourself permission to do nothing. Embrace the art of rest, of sitting in silence, of just being.

4. Delegate and Let Go of Control

You don’t have to do everything yourself. You don’t have to have your hands in every single thing. Let go of the need to control every detail of your life. Trust yourself and trust others to step in and help. When you let go of control, you make space for miracles to flow in."

(Section 4: Healing from Burnout)

"Now let’s talk about healing. Because let’s be real, if you’ve been living in hustle culture for a while, you’ve probably experienced burnout at some point. And burnout is no joke. It’s a slow drain that takes everything from you, leaving you feeling empty, uninspired, and stuck.

Healing from burnout takes time, but it’s totally possible. Here are a few steps to help you along the way:

1. Rest and Recharge

I know, it sounds simple, but it’s so essential. You need to rest. Not ‘work on rest,’ but actually rest. Take naps. Take a day off. Let your body and mind reset. I’m talking about real rest — the kind that doesn’t come with guilt or anxiety.

2. Nourish Your Body

When we’re in hustle mode, we often forget to take care of ourselves physically. We don’t eat properly. We don’t hydrate. We don’t sleep enough. But you can’t expect to thrive when your body is neglected. Start nourishing yourself. Drink more water. Eat foods that fuel you. Move your body in ways that feel good.

3. Disconnect to Reconnect

Sometimes, the best way to heal is to disconnect from the constant noise. Turn off your phone, step away from social media, and reconnect with what really matters: yourself. Spend time in nature, read a good book, or take a walk. Disconnecting from the digital world helps you reconnect with your inner world.

4. Let Go of Guilt

This is key. You’re not lazy for resting. You’re not less productive for taking time for yourself. In fact, you’re more productive when you give yourself time to recharge. Let go of the guilt that comes with rest and start seeing it as an investment in your long-term health, creativity, and success."

(Section 5: The Long-Term Benefits of Healing the Hustle Mentality)

"So, why go through all this effort? Why let go of the hustle mentality and make these changes? Because healing from hustle culture isn’t just about feeling better today — it’s about creating a life that supports your long-term well-being, growth, and happiness.

Here are some of the long-term benefits of making this shift:

1. More Creativity

When you’re not constantly chasing the next task, you give your mind the space to be creative. You’ll find that your ideas flow naturally. Inspiration comes when you’re not forcing it.

2. Stronger Relationships

When you’re not always in ‘go mode,’ you have the energy and presence to nurture your relationships. You’ll be more present with your loved ones, more connected with your friends, and more in tune with what truly matters.

3. A Deeper Sense of Purpose

When you release the hustle, you make room for your true purpose to come forward. You align with what you’re truly meant to do in this life, and you start to feel more fulfilled.

4. Sustained Success

Real success is sustainable success. When you heal from the hustle, you build a life that’s sustainable. You stop burning out and start thriving, consistently, over the long term."

(Final Thoughts)

"So, my spiritual gangsters, I want you to know this: You don’t have to hustle to be successful. You don’t have to sacrifice your peace for productivity. You don’t have to burn out to burn bright.

You are worthy, you are enough, and you deserve to live a life of ease, flow, and abundance. So let go of the hustle. Heal from the grind. Step into alignment, and watch how the universe will meet you with everything you’ve been working for — but in a way that feels good.

Remember: you don’t have to prove anything. Just be, and the rest will follow.

I’m sending you so much love. Now go out there and slay from a place of ease."

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April 25, 2025

Episode 10: Boundaries are Sacred

[Intro Music]

 

 

Amanda (playful and punchy):

Helllooooo, my badass, bright-light-beaming Spiritual Gangsters! Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — where we get real, raw, and ridiculously empowered. I’m your host Amanda Pieraldi — your soul sister, healing hype girl, and human permission slip to stop people-pleasing and start living your truth.

And today? Oh baby, today we’re diving into a topic that makes the people-pleasers panic and the healers squirm.

Boundaries.

Yes. That word. That spicy, terrifying, life-changing word.

Listen… if just hearing the word “boundaries” made your nervous system twitch — same, babe. But stick with me, because we’re about to flip the script. Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re not mean. They’re not selfish. Boundaries are SACRED.

And if no one has told you this today: You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to say no. And you are allowed to protect your peace like it’s the last cookie on the plate at a spiritual brunch.

So — let’s get into it.

[Section 1: WTF Even *Are* Boundaries?]

Okay. First off — let’s clear the spiritual smoke and define it.

A boundary is a line that protects your energy, your time, your values, and your nervous system from being hijacked by someone else’s chaos.

It’s not about controlling others. It’s about honoring yourself.

Think of boundaries like energetic skin. They tell you where you end and someone else begins. And let me tell you — if your boundaries are paper-thin, everything starts to bleed together: other people’s opinions, their drama, their projections, their “Can you justs?” and “I know you’re busy, but…”

Hard pass.

When you don't have boundaries, you turn into an emotional sponge. And not the cute kind. The crusty kitchen sponge that smells like burnout and resentment.

[Section 2: Why We Struggle With Boundaries — Especially the Spiritual Ones]

Now, let’s talk about why boundaries feel hard — especially for my spiritual, big-hearted, “I-just-want-to-help-everyone” babes.

We were taught that love means sacrifice. That being “nice” is more important than being honest. That if you say “no,” you’re cold, ungrateful, or — my personal favorite — difficult.

*Insert eye roll here.*

Newsflash: You can be kind and have boundaries. You can be spiritual and say no. You can be loving and still leave the damn group chat.

Boundaries don’t disconnect you from others — they deepen the connection to yourself.

And let’s be real — if your light is always on for everyone else, eventually the power goes out. Protecting your energy isn’t selfish. It’s sacred maintenance.

[Section 3: Signs Your Boundaries Are Leaking Like a Spiritual Sieve]

Let’s play a little game I like to call: “Are Your Boundaries Broken?”

- You say yes when your gut is screaming no?

- You feel guilty for resting?

- You keep answering texts when you need silence?

- You dread certain people but keep seeing them out of obligation?

- You feel like your energy is constantly being drained?

Ding, ding, ding! You might be due for a boundary tune-up.

And don’t worry — we’ve all been there. I call it energetic people-pleasing burnout. It’s when your aura is exhausted, your voice gets shaky, and suddenly you’re resenting everyone… including yourself.

But guess what? That resentment isn’t a flaw. It’s feedback. It’s your soul saying, “Hey babe… we need some boundaries.”

[Section 4: Boundary-Setting Isn’t Mean — It’s Medicine]

Here’s where we rewire the programming:

Setting boundaries isn’t rejection — it’s redirection.

It’s not about shutting people out — it’s about calling your power in.

Boundaries say:

- “I love you, and I love me too.”

- “I’m here for you, but I’m not here to save you.”

- “My time matters. My energy matters. My NO is sacred.”

And if someone gets offended by your boundary? That’s okay. Their discomfort isn’t your responsibility. Let me say it louder for the people in the back:

You are not responsible for how others respond to your boundaries.

If your boundary ruins the relationship, the relationship was built on your compliance, not your truth. And we’re not doing that anymore.

[Section 5: Scripts for the Spiritually Sassy Boundary-Setter]

Okay, let’s make this juicy and practical.

Here are some go-to, spiritually-aligned boundary phrases that still let you keep your halo intact:

- “That doesn’t work for me right now, but I hope you find what you need.”

- “I’m not available for that, but I trust you’ll figure it out.”

- “I’m choosing rest tonight — thank you for understanding.”

- “I’d love to support you, but not at the expense of my own well-being.”

- “I’m no longer available for one-sided conversations.”

- “This isn’t a good fit for me — and I trust that’s okay.”

See? Boundaries don’t have to be harsh — they can be holy. Loving. Direct. And DRIPPING in self-respect.

[Section 6: Boundaries as a Spiritual Practice]

Let’s flip the narrative: boundaries aren’t just practical… they’re spiritual AF.

When you set a boundary, you affirm your worth.

When you say no, you’re saying yes to alignment.

When you protect your energy, you amplify your impact.

Boundaries are how your spirit says, “I take myself seriously.”

They create the container for your magic to flourish.

Because let’s be honest — unboundaried spiritual people are often exhausted, scattered, and resentful. But the ones who claim their space? Honey, they GLOW. They radiate. They move through the world like they are sovereign AF.

And that’s the vibe we’re stepping into, okay?

[Amanda’s Boundary-Setting Starter Kit]

You KNOW I love a toolkit. So here’s your Boundary-Setting Starter Pack:

1. The Pause Button:

   When someone asks you something, say “Let me get back to you” — and actually think about whether it feels aligned.

2. The Mirror Mantra:

   Look at yourself and say:

   “My energy is sacred. I do not owe access to anyone.”

3. The Nervous System Check-In:

   If your body tightens up, that’s a NO. Full stop.

4. The Energetic Audit:

   Every week, ask: “Who or what drained me?” Then… adjust accordingly.

5. The Rehearsal:

   Practice boundary-setting out loud. In the shower. In the car. Pretend you’re Beyoncé. Make it a whole vibe.

[Outro — Say It with Me, Gangsters]

Alright, my sacred rebels — here’s your closing reminder:

You are not a doormat. You are a damn divine doorway.

Boundaries are how we stop abandoning ourselves for the comfort of others.

So if you needed a sign to cancel that thing you don’t want to do?

Here it is.

If you needed permission to protect your peace?

Granted.

If you needed to hear that you don’t need to be available 24/7?

I SAID WHAT I SAID.

You are allowed to choose you.

You are allowed to take up space.

And you are allowed to let your boundaries be bold, beautiful, and blessed.

If this episode lit something up in you, share it with your fellow recovering people-pleasers, leave a juicy review, and tag me @spiritualgangsterpod so we can spread this sacred gospel together.

Until next time — stay soft, stay sassy, and protect that energy like it’s spiritual gold.

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April 18, 2025

Episode 9: Self-Compassion is a Superpower

[Intro Music]

Amanda (with energy and sass):

Hellooooo, my gorgeous, gritty, growth-loving Spiritual Gangsters! Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the sacred space where we talk all things woo, wild, and way too real. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi — your hype woman for healing, your coach for consciousness, and your bestie when your shadow self is acting up.

And today… ohhh honey, today we are talking about one of the most underrated, misunderstood, and totally badass spiritual tools out there:

Self-compassion.

Yup. Being kind to your damn self.

Who knew?

This episode is for anyone who has ever beat themselves up for not being “far enough,” “good enough,” “productive enough,” or — my personal favorite — “spiritual enough.” (Yes, the irony is real.)

So grab your matcha, wrap yourself in a blanket like the divine burrito you are, and let’s talk about why self-compassion isn’t just some fluffy feel-good buzzword — it’s a superpower.

[Section 1: Self-Compassion — Not Just Bubble Baths and Affirmations]

Okay. First things first.

When I say self-compassion, what comes to mind?

Let me guess — soft music, face masks, bubble baths, maybe whispering sweet nothings to your inner child while petting a cat and journaling in cursive.

Listen, I love a good spa day as much as the next soul-seeking Sagittarius, but real self-compassion? It’s grittier than that. It’s not always cute. It’s not always pretty. And spoiler alert — it’s not always Instagrammable.

True self-compassion is when you royally screw something up — like, full-on dumpster fire vibes — and instead of dragging yourself through the shame swamp, you go,

“Okay. That sucked. I’m human. I’m learning. And I’m still worthy.”

Whew.

You feel that? That’s called healing, babe.

That’s your soul unclenching.

[Section 2: The Inner Critic — That Loud B*tch in Your Head]

Now let’s talk about the villain of this episode: the Inner Critic.

You know her.

That snarky voice in your head that sounds suspiciously like Regina George and your 8th grade gym teacher had a baby?

She LOVES to show up when you’re already feeling vulnerable.

“Really? You slept in again?”

“Maybe if you meditated more, you wouldn’t feel like a hot mess.”

“Oh look, someone’s behind on their goals. What a shock.”

Yeah… her.

Let me tell you something, sis — that voice? She’s not the truth. She’s trauma in a tracksuit. And she’s way louder than she deserves to be.

Self-compassion is the voice that gently steps in and says, “Hey… maybe we don’t have to bully ourselves into becoming better people. Maybe we get to grow through love instead of shame.”

Mic. Drop.

[Section 3: Shame is Not a Motivational Tool]

Somewhere along the way, we got sold this idea that beating ourselves up is productive.

Like if we just hate ourselves enough, we’ll magically transform into this shiny, perfect version of us who never makes mistakes and always drinks enough water.

Spoiler alert: That’s not how this works. That’s not how any of this works.

Shame is not a life coach.

Guilt is not a strategy.

And burnout is not a badge of honor.

You don’t need to punish yourself into alignment. You need to love yourself into healing.

When you mess up — and you will, because hi, you’re human — self-compassion says:

“Hey babe, you’re doing your best. Let’s reflect, learn, and move forward without dragging yourself across the coals.”

It’s giving grace.

It’s giving softness.

It’s giving “main character energy even on your off days.”

[Section 4: Self-Compassion in the Real World — Not Just in Your Journal]

Okay okay, let’s get practical.

What does self-compassion actually look like in real life?

It looks like:

- Saying “no” without explaining your entire life story.

- Choosing rest even when your to-do list is giving you side-eye.

- Forgiving yourself for past choices made from a place of survival.

- Catching your negative self-talk in the moment and saying, “Hold up — would I say that to my best friend?”

Because here’s the thing — you can’t bully yourself into enlightenment. You can’t shame yourself into success. And you can’t hustle your way to wholeness.

Self-compassion is the pause. The breath. The moment you stop trying to “fix” yourself and remember you were never broken to begin with.

It’s the sacred rebellion of choosing kindness over criticism.

It’s spiritual gangster behavior, okay?

[Section 5: The Superpower Part — Why It Changes Everything]

So why is self-compassion a superpower, you ask?

Because when you practice it, you become emotionally resilient as hell.

You bounce back faster.

You stop fearing failure because you know it doesn’t define you.

You take more risks, dream bigger, speak louder — because you’re not afraid of your own judgment anymore.

Self-compassion creates safety inside your own mind.

And let me tell you — when your inner world feels safe, you become unstoppable. You’re not wasting energy doubting, criticizing, or shaming yourself anymore. You’re using that energy to CREATE.

To serve.

To love.

To heal.

To grow.

That’s the power. That’s the magic.

That’s the Spiritual Gangster way.

[Section 6: Amanda’s Self-Compassion Toolkit — Because You Know I Love a Ritual]

Alright, let’s make it tangible. Here’s your Self-Compassion Starter Pack — aka what I reach for when my inner critic tries to hijack the wheel:

1. The Hand-to-Heart Check-In:

   Close your eyes, put your hand on your heart, and say:

   “I’m safe. I’m loved. I’m doing my best.”

2. The Mirror Pep Talk:

   Look yourself dead in the eyes (yes, it’s weird, do it anyway) and say:

   “You’re doing amazing, sweetie.”

3. The Compassionate Reframe:

   Catch a self-critical thought, and flip it.

   “I’m so lazy” becomes “I’m honoring my body’s need for rest today.”

4. Voice Note to Self:

   Record a message to yourself like you would to your best friend on a hard day.

   Then play it back when you need it. Bonus points for dramatic music in the background.

5. The Post-Screwup Hug:

   When you mess up? Don’t spiral. Just say: “Okay. That happened. What’s the kindest thing I can do for myself right now?”

Self-compassion isn’t a one-time thing. It’s a daily practice. A mindset. A lifestyle. And yeah… it’s a whole damn vibe.

[Outro: Love Yo’ Self, Babe]

Alright, gangsters. Let’s wrap it up with this truth:

The world doesn’t need more perfect people.

It needs more compassionate ones.

You being gentle with yourself isn’t weak — it’s revolutionary.

You giving yourself grace isn’t an excuse — it’s empowerment.

You choosing love over judgment? That’s some high-frequency, divine energy right there.

So the next time your inner critic starts talking sh*t, just smile and say,

“Thanks for your input… but I’m choosing self-compassion today.”

You’ve got this. You’re worthy. And you’re so much more than your productivity or your past.

Thanks for hanging out with me today, you magical masterpiece. If this episode gave you life, send it to your favorite overachiever, leave a review, and tag me @amandapieraldi so I can remind you how amazing you are.

Until next time — stay soft, stay sassy, and remember:

Self-compassion is your superpower.

[Outro Music fades out]

 

 

 

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April 11, 2025

Episode 8: Letting Go of Control and Trusting the Process

[Intro Music]

Amanda (cheerful and cheeky):

Helloooo, my beautiful, magical, slightly control-freaky Spiritual Gangsters! Welcome back to The Spiritual Gangster Podcast — the place where we keep it real, raw, and ridiculously soulful. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi — professional overthinker turned surrendered goddess. And today… we’re diving deep into a topic that I *know* is going to hit some nerves — letting go of control and trusting the process.

Yup. I said it.

Letting. Go. Of. Control.

*Cue the collective gasp.*

Look, I know this is the episode some of you have been pretending not to need… but your higher self made you click play anyway. You’re welcome.

So grab your oat milk latte, pull your crystals a little closer, and let’s get into this cosmic rollercoaster we call life — and why you don’t always need to be the one driving the damn cart.

[Section 1: Control Freaks Anonymous]

Let’s just start with a confession, shall we?

Hi, my name’s Amanda, and I used to be a control freak.

(Okay fine — still am. Recovering. Progress, not perfection, people.)

Like seriously, if I could’ve micromanaged the Universe, I would’ve.

"Hey Universe, I need that manifestation by Tuesday at 3 p.m., and while you’re at it, could you wrap it in lavender-scented gratitude and maybe throw in a discount code?"

*Spoiler alert:* The Universe doesn’t take special requests like DoorDash, babe. It’s not Amazon Prime. Sometimes, your order is on backorder… and sometimes, it’s like, “Yeah no, that’s not actually for you.”

But control feels *safe*, right? It gives us that sweet, sweet illusion that we’re running the show. Like if we plan enough, organize enough, obsess enough, we can protect ourselves from chaos.

But here’s the thing — control is often just fear in heels.

She looks cute, but she’s insecure. She’s scared things won’t go her way, so she tries to *force* them.

Sound familiar?

[Section 2: The Myth of the Plan]

So let’s talk about *the plan* — you know, the one we all made in our heads at 15?

By 25, I’ll be married.

By 28, I’ll have two kids.

By 30, I’ll have a lakeside cottage, a six-figure career, a hot partner who makes green smoothies and remembers my mom’s birthday.

*L-O-L.*

Meanwhile, the Universe was like, “That’s cute, babe. But I’ve got something *way* better — and it starts with a breakdown and ends with a breakthrough.”

Here’s what I’ve learned — and I say this with all the sass and love in my little cosmic heart — the more you try to white-knuckle your way through life, the more exhausted and disconnected you feel.

Because you weren’t meant to *grip*, you were meant to *flow*.

And guess what? Flow doesn’t mean sitting on your butt waiting for miracles to fall from the sky — it means doing your part, staying in alignment, and then releasing your attachment to how it all unfolds.

The how is *not* your job.

That’s God’s job. Or the Universe. Or Beyoncé. Whoever you believe is running this cosmic circus.

[Section 3: Surrender ≠ Giving Up]

Now, let’s make one thing real clear before some of you start spiraling…

Letting go of control doesn’t mean giving up.

It’s not like, “Welp, I guess I’ll just sit in my bathrobe eating Oreos and hope for enlightenment.”

No ma’am.

Surrender is *active trust*. It’s choosing — moment by moment — to believe that things are unfolding for your highest good, even when it feels like a dumpster fire.

It’s saying, “I don’t know how this is going to work out… but I know I’m being guided.”

It’s choosing peace over panic.

Faith over fear.

Vibes over spreadsheets.

Okay maybe not always — I still love a good spreadsheet. But you get the point.

When you surrender, you stop trying to force what’s not flowing. You stop begging for crumbs from the wrong people. You stop exhausting yourself with “what ifs” and “should haves.”

And you finally — *finally* — create space for magic to move in.

[Section 4: Real Talk – Trust is a Practice]

Okay, now let’s get real. Like, really real.

Trusting the process sounds super cute on an Instagram quote, right?

“Trust the timing of your life.”

*Insert sunset background and feather graphics.*

But in real life? It’s messy. It’s scary. It’s like walking blindfolded through a haunted house while trying not to scream.

Trust is a *practice*. It’s not a light switch — it’s a muscle. And baby, if your trust muscle is out of shape, that’s okay. We’re all out here in the spiritual gym doing squats with our shadow selves.

You build trust by collecting evidence — little moments where things worked out *even better* than you planned. Times you thought it was all falling apart, but it was really just falling *into place*.

So look for those moments. Celebrate them. Keep a “miracle list” if you have to. Because trust grows when you start to realize that maybe, just *maybe*, the Universe actually knows what it’s doing.

And maybe you’re not behind.

Maybe you’re not lost.

Maybe… you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

[Section 5: Letting Go Rituals – Because We're Dramatic and We Love a Ceremony]

Alright, you know I can’t leave you hanging without some tools — and also, I’m extra, so yes, we’re doing a *letting go ritual.*

Here’s my fave:

1. Grab a piece of paper and write down all the things you’re gripping too tightly — the plans, the timelines, the people, the fears.

2. Light a candle (safely, please — don’t burn your house down).

3. Read it out loud and say:

“I release the illusion of control. I trust that what is meant for me will never miss me.”

4. Burn it. Shred it. Bury it under a rose quartz. I don’t care. Just *let it go*.

Bonus points if you play “Let It Go” from Frozen and cry in the bathtub. That’s peak spiritual gangster energy.

[Outro: Flow State Activated]

So, to all my fellow recovering control freaks out there — I see you. I love you. I *am* you.

But the truth is, the more you try to control life, the more you block the blessings trying to reach you. The Universe isn’t asking you to know it all — it’s asking you to trust.

To trust yourself.

To trust the process.

To trust that maybe, just maybe… there’s a divine plan, and your only job is to *get in alignment and stay open.*

So take a breath. unclench your jaw. unclench your butt. unclench your soul.

*It’s safe to let go.*

Thanks for vibing with me today. If you loved this episode, please leave a review, share it with your favorite control freak bestie, and tag me on Instagram @amandapieraldi so I can love you up!

Until next time… stay wild, stay woo-woo, and surrender, baby — because your destiny’s got better taste than your ego.

[Outro Music fades out]

 

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April 8, 2025

Spiritual Gangster Podcast – Episode 7 - The Energetics of Confidence

 

[Intro Music Playing – upbeat, grounding, soulful tone]

Amanda (Host voice):

Hey hey, beautiful souls — welcome back to the Spiritual Gangster Podcast, a vibe-driven space for the soulful and strong. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and I’m so damn glad you’re here.

Whether you're tuning in from your cozy couch, your morning commute, or mid-sweat on the treadmill — today’s episode is gonna light something up inside you. Promise.

This is your weekly reminder to protect your energy, trust your intuition, and walk through life fully embodied in your truth — unapologetically.

And today… ooooh, we’re talking about a vibe that changes the entire game — Confidence. But not just any confidence — we’re getting into The Energetics of Confidence.

So grab your tea, your journal, or just bring your full self to this conversation — because it’s about to get juicy.

Let’s talk about it.

Confidence isn’t just about walking into a room like you own it (although yes, please do that too). It’s not just about wearing the bold lipstick or crushing a presentation or nailing a selfie with bomb lighting.

Confidence is an energy. It’s a frequency. It’s the way your soul says, “I belong here — and I don’t need permission.”

It’s not about being the loudest person in the room. It’s not about never feeling self-doubt. It’s about owning your energy — even when your knees are shaking and your inner critic is running her mouth.

Real confidence says:

“I’m not perfect, but I’m powerful.”

“I’ve got insecurities, but I show up anyway.”

“I may not know all the answers, but I trust myself enough to figure it out.”

That’s the energetic shift.

Now let me be real with you for a sec.

There was a time I thought confidence came from achieving things. You know — get the job, get the body, get the relationship, get the approval.

But the more I stacked external wins, the more I realized — none of it made me feel truly confident. I still questioned myself. I still looked for validation. I still didn’t feel grounded in my own power.

Because confidence isn’t built externally — it’s cultivated internally.

It’s not a result of perfection — it’s a result of self-trust.

It’s the byproduct of keeping promises to yourself.

It’s what happens when you decide to be the main character in your own life — not the background support for everyone else’s story.

Let’s get into the energetics of it all.

Everything is energy — your thoughts, your posture, your tone, your presence. Confidence is less about what you do and more about the energy behind how you do it.

Think about this:

Two people can say the exact same sentence, but one person says it from a place of nervousness and needing approval, while the other says it with rooted energy — grounded, sure, unfazed.

It’s not the words — it’s the frequency.

When you embody confidence energetically, people feel it before you even speak.

You walk in the room and people turn their heads. Not because of your outfit — but because of your presence.

And that presence is created by your inner alignment. Your belief in your worth. Your decision to no longer abandon yourself for the comfort of others.

So how do you cultivate that energy? Let me break it down.

1. Mindset shifts.

Confidence begins with how you speak to yourself. Stop waiting until you “feel” confident — start thinking like someone who already is. Your mind is listening to every word you say. So speak life into yourself, babe. Loudly.

2. Body language matters.

Shoulders back. Head high. Eye contact. Deep breath. Move like you belong, even before your brain catches up. Embodied energy shifts everything.

3. Keep your promises.

The fastest way to build self-trust is to do what you said you would do — even when it’s hard, even when no one is watching. Every time you follow through, your energy says, “I’ve got me.”

4. Stop outsourcing your worth.

Confidence isn’t “they like me.” It’s “I like me — whether they do or not.” The second you stop making your value dependent on other people’s opinions? You get your power back.

5. Take messy action.

Confidence doesn’t come from thinking about doing the thing — it comes from actually doing it, imperfectly. Action breeds clarity. Progress builds belief. Get out of your head and into your life.

Let’s normalize this too:

You can be confident and still have moments of doubt.

You can feel like a badass one minute and question everything the next.

Confidence is not a permanent state — it’s a practice. A decision. A way of being you keep choosing again and again.

And on the days when it’s hard to choose it? That’s okay too.

Sometimes confidence looks like taking the stage.

Other times it looks like getting out of bed and brushing your damn hair.

It’s all valid. It’s all powerful. It’s all part of the energy you’re building.

Here’s your reminder for the week:

Confidence doesn’t come from being perfect.

Confidence comes from being present.

From being in your body, in your truth, in your worth — even when life feels messy and uncertain.

So this week, I want you to tap into the energetics of it.

Not the surface-level “look confident,” but the deep soul-rooted embodiment of “I know who I am, and I’m not dimming that.”

Repeat after me:

“I trust myself. I back myself. I choose me — every damn day.”

Feel it in your body. Anchor it into your energy. Then go out and move like the powerhouse you are.

[Closing – Familiar Tone]

Alright, my spiritual gangsters — that’s what I’ve got for you today.

If this episode lit something up inside you, share it with a friend who needs that energetic confidence boost too.

And make sure to hit follow so you don’t miss next week’s episode — because the vibes just keep getting better. New episodes drop every Friday, all the way through December.

Until next time — keep walking in your truth, standing in your power, and showing up like the spiritual badass you are.

You’ve got this. You’ve always had this.

Talk to you next week!

[Outro music fades in]

 

 

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March 28, 2025

Episode 6: Embracing Authenticity Over Approval

 

 

[Intro Music Playing – upbeat, grounding, soulful tone]

Amanda (Host voice):

Hey hey, welcome back to the Spiritual Gangster Podcast — a vibe-driven space for the soulful and strong. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and I am so pumped you’re here today.

Whether you’re listening while sipping your coffee, driving your car, walking your dog, or hiding in your bathroom from your kids — no judgment — this episode is gonna be one you’ll want to soak in.

This podcast is your weekly permission slip to protect your peace, trust your intuition, and own your story — unapologetically. And today, we’re diving into a topic that I know hits home for so many of us — embracing authenticity over approval.

So, let’s get into it.

[Main Content Starts]

Let me just say this upfront — being authentic in a world that profits off your self-doubt is a damn rebellious act.

Seriously.

We’ve been conditioned from day one to perform.

To please.

To package ourselves in palatable little boxes that make everyone else feel comfortable… even if we’re wildly uncomfortable in the process.

And for what? Approval? Validation? Gold stars that don’t mean a damn thing when your head hits the pillow at night?

Yeah… been there, done that, burnt the t-shirt.

Let’s talk about it.

Because I don’t know about you, but I spent way too many years trying to shrink myself to fit into rooms I didn’t even want to be in. Saying “yes” when I meant “hell no.” Dimming my light so someone else could feel brighter.

It’s exhausting.

And it’s not living — it’s surviving on autopilot.

But here’s the truth, babe:

Approval is addictive, but authenticity is liberating.

And choosing authenticity — real, raw, unapologetic you — that’s where the magic lives.

Let’s break this down for a sec.

Approval-seeking is sneaky.

It can look like…

• Posting that “perfect” curated photo on social media even though your life feels like a dumpster fire behind the scenes.

• Agreeing with everyone in the room just to avoid conflict — even when your gut is screaming otherwise.

• Saying “yes” to plans you have zero desire to go to — just so no one thinks you’re rude.

• Putting on the “good girl” mask, the “chill girl” mask, the “perfect mom” mask — instead of showing up messy, flawed, and human.

But listen to me: You were not put on this Earth to be universally liked. You were put here to be radically real.

And yeah, being real might ruffle some feathers.

It might disappoint people.

It might make others uncomfortable.

But you know what’s worse than being misunderstood?

Being inauthentic.

Living a life that doesn’t belong to you.

You are not here to play dress-up in someone else’s version of acceptable. You are here to take up space — fully, boldly, beautifully.

I know it’s not always easy.

Because when you start showing up as your whole self — especially if you’ve been a lifelong people-pleaser — it feels like a whole-ass identity crisis at first.

You start asking:

“What if they don’t like the real me?”

“What if I lose relationships?”

“What if I’m too much?”

But what if… you’re not too much — you’re just finally being enough for yourself?

And if people walk away when you stop performing for their approval? Let them.

Your authenticity will never scare away the right people — only the ones who were benefiting from your pretending.

Let me repeat that for the ones in the back: Your authenticity will never scare away the right people.

Here’s what embracing authenticity actually looks like:

• Saying “no” without explaining your entire life story.

• Taking the damn photo without sucking in your stomach or over-filtering.

• Speaking your truth even if your voice shakes.

• Wearing the outfit that makes you feel good — not what’s “on trend.”

• Following what lights you up instead of what looks good on paper.

It’s about coming home to yourself.

Unlearning the scripts.

Unplugging from the hustle-for-worthiness culture.

It’s about realizing you don’t need a permission slip to be who you already are.

Because the truth is — authenticity is magnetic.

When you stop performing and start embodying, you give everyone else around you permission to do the same.

You become a lighthouse. A vibe. A whole frequency shift.

And let’s be real — no one’s inspired by perfection.

We’re inspired by truth, by courage, by stories, by realness.

That’s what connects us. That’s what heals us.

Let me tell you a little story.

There was a time in my life when I was checking every “approval” box on the damn list.

Marriage? Check.

Solid job? Check.

Smile on my face while I was crumbling inside? Big fat check.

But underneath that facade, I was empty. Disconnected. Lost.

It wasn’t until I started peeling back the layers — the “shoulds,” the masks, the fear of judgment — that I found peace.

Not the kind of peace that comes from things looking good on the outside, but the kind that sits in your bones. The kind that whispers, "this is who I am, and it’s more than enough.”

That’s the kind of peace I want for you.

Not performative. Not polished. But real.

So here’s your invitation this week:

Start paying attention to where you’re shrinking, silencing, or shape-shifting.

Ask yourself — Is this really me? Or is this a version of me I created to be accepted?

And then — choose yourself.

Even if it’s scary. Even if you lose people. Even if not everyone gets it.

Because what you gain in return — your voice, your truth, your peace — is worth more than anyone’s approval.

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Alright, my spiritual gangsters — that’s what I’ve got for you today.

If this episode hit home for you, share it with a friend who needs a little reminder that they don’t need to earn their worth — they already are enough, exactly as they are.

And hey — if you haven’t already, hit that follow button so you don’t miss an episode. We drop new ones every Friday, all the way through December — and trust me, the vibes are only getting stronger.

Until next time — keep showing up real, raw, and unapologetically YOU.

You don’t need anyone’s approval to be powerful.

You already are.

Talk to you next week!

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March 21, 2025

Spiritual Gangster Podcast – Episode 5

"Radical Rest and Sacred Stillness — The Soulful Reboot You Didn’t Know You Needed"

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Hey hey, welcome back to the Spiritual Gangster Podcast — a vibe-driven space for the soulful and strong. I’m your host, Amanda Pieraldi, and today, oh honey, we’re diving into something that most people treat like a luxury item instead of the damn necessity it actually is: *Rest.* Yeah, that thing you keep putting at the bottom of your to-do list like it’s optional. Spoiler alert — it’s not.

Today’s episode is called Radical Rest and Sacred Stillness — and let me tell you, this isn’t just about curling up in your favourite blanket (although yes, I highly encourage that). We’re talking about reclaiming your peace like your life depends on it — because honestly? It does.

And listen — before we dive in, wherever you are — maybe you're driving, power walking through your neighborhood pretending you're in a music video, or folding that mountain of laundry (again) — just take a breath with me.

Inhale deeply… Exhale slowly… Feel your shoulders drop and your jaw unclench. Let yourself land right here, in this moment. Because that right there — that presence — is exactly what we’re exploring today.

Segment 1: Rest Isn’t a Reward — It’s Your Birthright

We’ve been raised in a culture that practically worships burnout. Hustle harder. Sleep when you’re dead. Grind ‘til you shine — yeah okay, but at what cost? Chronic fatigue? Emotional whiplash? Existential dread? Cute.

We’re out here bragging about being exhausted like it’s a flex. But you know what’s actually revolutionary? Saying “No thanks, I’m gonna take a nap instead.” Radical, right?

Rest isn’t lazy. It’s holy. It’s essential. And somewhere along the way, we got bamboozled into thinking we have to *earn it*. Like we need to prove our worthiness through overextension and overachievement.

But guess what? You don’t need to perform exhaustion to be valuable. You don’t need to burn out to prove you’re working hard enough. You don’t need to be available 24/7 to be worthy of love or success.

Segment 2: Stillness Isn’t Emptiness — It’s Sacred Ground

Let’s flip the script here: stillness is not emptiness. It’s not this void you fall into. It’s actually the most potent space you can exist in. Stillness is where your soul recalibrates, where your creativity whispers, where your clarity rises like steam from a mug of tea you finally sat down long enough to drink.

In stillness, you remember who the hell you are. Beneath the titles, the to-do lists, the noise — you’re still you. Not a productivity machine. Not someone else’s expectation checklist. You’re a whole, divine being — and that sacred pause is where your essence breathes.

And listen, I get it — stillness can feel awkward at first. You sit down and your brain is like “Let’s overthink everything since we’re not doing anything else!” But the more you practice it, the more it becomes a safe home instead of a scary void.

Segment 3: Nervous System Nourishment is a Love Language

Your nervous system is not designed to be in survival mode all the damn time. Constant hustle keeps your body in fight, flight, freeze or fawn — and eventually, you crash. Not because you’re weak, but because your body is smart and it’s literally screaming for you to *chill the hell out*.

Radical rest is nervous system nourishment. It’s choosing softness when your body is bracing. It’s allowing silence in a world screaming for your attention. It’s saying “I’m not doing a damn thing right now — and that’s enough.”

You want to heal? Start by resting. You want clarity? Sit in stillness. You want to stop feeling like an over-caffeinated hamster on a broken wheel? You guessed it — pause, my friend. Pause on purpose.

Segment 4: My Own Resistance to Rest — And What Shifted

Let me be real with you — I used to suck at rest. Like, truly. I thought if I wasn’t constantly *doing*, then I was falling behind. I thought rest was for people who had already “made it” — whatever that means.

But life has a way of sitting your ass down when you won’t do it willingly. Grief, burnout, health scares — they became my teachers. And through them, I learned that rest isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. It’s strength in surrender. It’s courage in choosing softness in a world that rewards sharp edges.

And now? I rest *radically*. I rest with intention, not guilt. I rest because I love myself — not because I’m allowed to. And every time I do, I come home to myself just a little more.

Segment 5: Soulful Practices for Sacred Stillness

Let’s talk tangible ways to reclaim radical rest — and no, it’s not just bubble baths and binge-watching (though hey, those can be sacred too).

Here are a few soulful practices to anchor your rest:

1. **Unplug the Noise** – Take a tech timeout. Silence the pings, the dings, and the dopamine traps. The world won’t implode — I promise.

2. **Breathe on Purpose** – Breathwork is powerful. Try a few slow, conscious breaths and see how your energy shifts.

3. **Sabbath Moments** – Even if you don’t subscribe to any religious practice, a sacred pause weekly — a few hours of true stillness — can recalibrate your soul.

4. **Rest Rituals** – Whether it’s lighting a candle, drinking tea slowly, journaling under a blanket — ritualize your rest so it becomes sacred, not optional.

5. **Say No Without Apologizing** – Boundaries are restful. Period.

Segment 6: Soul Check-In — Reflect With Me

Take a moment and ask yourself:

- Where in my life am I resisting rest — and why?

- What story have I been told about rest being lazy or indulgent?

- What does rest look like for me — truly?

- How can I create more sacred stillness in my daily rhythm?

- Who benefits when I burn out… and who benefits when I rest?

Final Thoughts — Your Rest is Revolutionary

You are not behind. You’re not lazy. You’re a soul navigating a loud-ass world — and choosing stillness is spiritual defiance.

Rest isn’t quitting. It’s *remembering*. It’s reclaiming your center. It’s holy, it’s healing, and it’s your birthright.

So go take your nap.. Unapologetically choose your peace.

Your soul will thank you.

Thanks for vibing with me today. Stay soulful, stay strong — and never forget the power of your sacred pause.